As with relationships, so with friendships – learning to be extremely fussy!
And so here we are at the point when I am finally asserting that when it comes to friendships, you have to …
Friendships/People: Super Spontaneous!
These thoughts are literally just occurring to me now, when I’m supposed to be doing other things! Thoughts that occurred to me: …
Friendship: But we agreed!
I just spontaneously wanted to write this post to express some of the irks I feel about friendships. Before I jump into …
Friendship: Making a start!
Well I finally started my social justice blog, and now for the turn of the friendship blog, which is also something I’ve …
The Primacy of Friendship OR putting friendship first
This is an idea that has only really crystallised in my mind today. On this blog I have spoken so many times …
Yet another “Haven’t posted for so long!” post! – Or, passionately in friendship
Well after what seems like months of not quite getting around to writing a post, I am in exactly that kind of …
To rekindle your fire, try rekindling your friendship!
Well I have been thinking as always about relationships. I can’t quite remember how the following thought process happened in my mind, …
The difference between “friendly” and “friendship”
This post builds a little on last week’s post, about what friendship is “really”. This new post seeks to examine the subject …
What is friendship really? Part 2
After writing last week’s post on “What is Friendship?” I’ve been thinking a little more about the subject. What occurred to me …
What is friendship?
I must admit that it is somewhat embarrassing for me to have to write this post. After all, this concerns something that …
Friendship Criteria
Well, after writing a blog post proclaiming that I was not going to write just about myself and my expectations in marriage …
Criterion No 2 – Friendship
OK, now for the second criterion on the list of essential criteria for my husband – perhaps in this case, it would …
Feelings versus Friendship
OK, as you may know, I can be very good at writing very, very long articles! So I will summarise the point …
Reminder whatever you want (in marriage)…
This is hopefully going to be a super quick post because I’ve got to get out of the house ASAP! It suddenly …
Long time no post, awkwardness, community, middle-class churches, labour exploitation versus financial success
I’m so conscious that I have not posted for a few weeks now. I must confess that I am procrastinating a little! …
Alphabetical list of relationship aspects
Abuse Adultery Ambition Anger Attraction Better Married or Single? Boundaries Building an excellent foundation for your marriage Character Commitment Communication Dating Different …
An idea…
I’m sure that many readers will have heard, read, or watched the uploaded video of the incident between Amy Cooper and Christian …
Most Radical Ideas
Last updated: 27th November 2022 I believe that this blog has a few ideas which are deeply, deeply radical. I believe that …
Late night ponderings: male colleagues, tube strangers and the friendzone
Oh Huggie-Wuggie, how I’ve missed you! Firstly, apologies in advance if this post is a whole heap of incoherent nonsense – I’ll …
OK, I know I said “coming soon”, and I do mean that, but…
OK, I know I said “coming soon”, and I do mean that, but… [Perhaps this is completely irrelevant to most people, but …
So I read some posts today!
PREAMBLE Well today I was reading some stories online about what people have experienced in their relationships. On one hand, these were …
→ January 14, 2018
1. The “Friendship” blog should actually have two distinct categories: “Friends” for dealing with people who are actually friends, and “People” for …
Social Justice: Remembering my Materialistic Youth
Well I said that I would challenge myself to make a start on this social justice blog before the end of this …
Merry Christmas, and please help with this new blog idea!
I would really like to wish all the readers of “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” an amazing Christmas season, or what remains of it. …
Bible Verse: Ecclesiastes 4v12
Ecclesiastes 4:12 “…And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Photo by Conger Design on Pixabay
What’s waiting for you at the end of your tether?
Quick answer: whatever you have prepared, so prepare well. This blog is not really the place for this particular post. However I …
Dear Lord, please grant me patience!
Or, Why do I have such acute emotional needs?! So I was sitting there just minutes ago, just casually and happily minding …
Please come back in 5 years time!
Well it turns out that thi s day of the year, October 16th, has historically been a very prolific date in the …
What does it mean to let the man take the lead (in starting the relationship)?!!!
This is one of those spontaneous posts that just occurs to me and I feel like expressing. Whatever else I might “get” …
How do you know he’s not going to be unfaithful..?
Someone once asked me how I knew that my husband was not going to be unfaithful. And I just stared! It is …
The Lie of Capitalism
I know what you might be thinking: “Tosin, what is a post about Capitalism doing on your Huggie-Wuggie blog?! Have you possibly …
Hearts and Character
Well I have just written this post on my Bible blog, but I was feeling so riled and worked up about this …
My long-lasting relationships
Well after I had read the post referred to in my own previous post here on this blog, it got me thinking …
Dating your man after the wedding!
Well it has been a while since my last Huggie-Wuggie post, and I felt that I needed to explain to you all …
Tosin’s List: Part 3: Desirable Characteristics
HUGE HUGE PROVISO! Before I publish this post, I want to make it clear that I know that I really, really, have …
My biggest fear…just now!
Before launching into “my biggest fear”, a little admission. A few days ago I sat down and tried to write a blog post …
Happy 5th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
So the fifth anniversary of this blog occurred all the way back in March! That’s five years of thinking about marriage, and …
A story that needs to be told…
Firstly, I really want to apologise if it seems that I have been blowing my own trumpet so much on this blog. …
Communication Meltdown!
Recently I found myself down one of those internet article rabbit holes, where I will almost compulsively start reading one article after another, …
Dear Mr Huggie-Wuggie: I wanna be your best friend!
Well following my little love story about best friends I’ve been dreaming a lot about a marriage where my husband and I …
Talking about…adultery!
A few weeks ago I came across the following article, about a famous author who left his wife for another woman. Daily …
Celebrating some amazing friends!
Despite being on this blog, this is a post that is purely about friendships, with people of either gender! So over the …
Let’s talk (again!) about doing the pursuing…
Apologies in advance: this is a particularly waffly post! It is a subject that I struggle to understand, so I have literally …
How to turn someone down
OK, now for the second part of this post: this is the matching part to the first post, how to ask someone …
How to ask someone out
There is now a matching post to this, “How to turn someone down” Well here I am, supposed to be working away. …
Ignoring my Huggie-Wuggie?!
Well today I’ve got to admit that I was in two minds about whether to write a post here or not. On …
Blaming my parents for everything…
Disclaimer/Confession: I actually thought of this post a few days ago, while I was typing out my last post. However, as I …
In hot pursuit
This post is a development of ideas I have expressed before. However I first thought of it in this light last night …
Deserving you
The slogan on this graphic reads:“Only God can give you the love you’re looking for, and only God can give you the …
Building a Foundation for your singleness
This is the second attempt at writing this post. My mind is like jelly right now, perhaps because I have been eating …
What true care truly looks like
Yeah, it has been a bit of a while since I last wrote a post on either of my blogs. On one …
Marriage as a performance art
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE**********As with last week’s post, this post will be most relevant within marriage itself. However, it will be most useful to …
Happy 4th Birthday to “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!”
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is not specific to any relationship status, other than my own! ******************************************* This post is celebrating four years …
Big cause of awkwardness: Premature Emotional Intimacy
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who also struggles with awkwardness as I do. In terms of stages it …
Strands and Building Blocks
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to people who are considering whether to get married, for instance people who …
Christian Romantic Fiction – The Heroes!
…And unto my second post of the evening that has in part been inspired by “Christian Romantic Fiction”. Just a quick observation. …
Church V Marriage part 2
You don’t genuinely care, about me, or God. You are just interested in adding some extra multicultural kudos to your prayerless gathering, …
How joining a church is like entering a marriage
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who also goes to church, examining a few similarities between “church” and “a …
How women make themselves cheap
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for women who are single and looking, encouraging them to insist on …
A Business-Minded Spouse as a Business Investment
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think this post is most relevant for people who are single and ambitious. It provides a new way of …
Welcome to the friendzone!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for people who are single and looking, struggling with feelings for one …
October posts to write – ideas that have occurred to me in October/ish
1. Married to myself: Woman in china, recent woman, etc WRITTEN 2. Welcome to the friendzone!WRITTEN 3. Relationship ambivalence – can’t remember …
Acting like an idiot!
Well I’ve just written out a blog post just to try to express my thoughts regarding this “awkward thing”. To be honest, …
Further thoughts about two years…
Well I was thinking away about people in general, and remembering some issues I found myself having to shake my head. I …
True concern – Postscript
In this post, I would like to offer further clarification about the “true concern” post. As I was originally writing that post …
Further prayers for my marriage
These are further useful prayers to pray for my spouse and marriage. In prayer I roughly subdivide my time between the 3 …
Where does true concern come from? And where does it go?
In this post I am going to address something that should really be central to this blog, but is not. That is, …
My Personal Values
Here I’ve tried to list down all my own personal values regarding dating and relationships. This page is likely to change a …
Moving back to London?! Part 1
Well I recently celebrated another anniversary of my arrival here in this beautiful city. I love this city so much. However, from …
OBSESSED!!!! And rightly so! And about time!!!!! And *proud* of it!!!!!
OK, I’ll admit it. I have just raced through writing my blog post on my other blog so that I could finally …
Struggling against an overactive imagination!
By the grace of God, God has blessed me with a very strong imagination. This is possibly the single biggest gift that …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here Even if you are …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Imagine for a minute that your chosen partner is …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 1
In this post, I am going to make quite a bold claim. I was thinking about this vaguely a few weeks ago. …
How do I know if he’s my friend?! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here In our days, we have the benefits of modern …
All about two years Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. However, if you had simply allowed yourself to get …
Mrs Huggie-Wuggie – or having a high huggie-wuggie quotient Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Unattractive Christians As I write this, it occurs to …
Within the marriage itself… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here If however, you did not spend the same time …
Within the marriage itself… Part 1
In my last post, I looked at a new and simple way to approach relationships before marriage to give each marriage the …
Revised relationship schedule Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here POTENTIAL PROBLEMS: This is possibly the biggest potential problem …
What everyone else knows…Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here If you have identified an issue in your spouse, …
What everyone else knows… Part 1
This week I have been sifting through a number of Huggie-Wuggie posts. While doing that, a few thoughts occurred to me. The …
Playing proactive versus playing hard to get Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here This is what playing hard to get looks like: …
How to pray to receive a spouse – further thoughts
I’ve previously written a post about how to pray for a spouse. This post here builds on that previous post. This new …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 1
The three parts of this post have now been compiled into a single free ebook, available in a wide variety of formats. …
The difference between love and infatuation
Well Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! In honour of Valentine’s day I am going to write today on a subject that is very …
Feelings of inadequacy
I don’t know why it is, but my mind will be buzzing with interesting and exciting ideas for blog posts all week, …
Thoughts about Communication
Here are some thoughts that I have been thinking about communication. I used to think that communication would be comparatively easy within …
Tosin’s Guy Rules
This is a post that I’ve been thinking of writing for a while. However, even though this is a blog that gets …
I don’t love you any more!
I sometimes wonder why it is in the midst of hard times that people break up. I always think that that is …
My attitude to Internet Dating
This is a blog post that I’ve been thinking about writing for a long time. A number of people have advised me …
The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Overtaking? Sometimes, if someone is aggressively pursuing excellence, even …
The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect Part 1
The content of this post is now available as a free ebook from Smashwords, in a wide variety of formats here When …
Ladies – know your cycle!
Update: Tuesday 23 October 2012: This post is now available as a free ebook from Smashwords in a variety of ebook formats …
Overview of Marriage Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here So anyway, finally, a …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here More waiting: So the Wait for me can be …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 1
This post comes to you courtesy of a question asked by a certain sibling of mine – about addressing “the Wait”. Before …
Re – more on when the relationship starts
Answer to a question from a Facebook friend: “What do you think differentiates two people who are going out from ordinary friendships?” …
This blog and you!
Or, who this blog is for. Firstly, thank you for reading this blog! I am grateful and honoured to anyone who is …
Criterion no 3 – Communication
Well I’m only referring to this criterion as no 3 to be orderly/methodical, as over the course of the week I have …
