As this is an open letter to my husband, it is quite a personal post about my life, so it is not really restricted to any relationship status in particular.
Well this week for Huggie-Wuggie I was supposed to be writing out a post about the Anatomy of a Marriage made in Heaven (or possibly about how to be truly beautiful), as these were the post titles chosen in the poll of posts to write for December. I am excited about both of these post ideas and hope to work on them later. However this is the post that I have written just now; I originally posted it on my Bible blog but I am copying it here as I think it is relevant to this blog too. This is to give thanks to that incredible man that God has brought into my life; my fantastic husband!
Well a while ago someone suggested that I should start a series about people who have positively touched my life. I think it is a great idea, and I especially love the idea of celebrating people while they are still alive. So here it is.
To start off, I think it is only fitting that this first post should be dedicated to that phenomenal and unparalleled man who is my husband.
My darling husband. My very own darling husband,
I feel a bit self-conscious about expressing here for public view what you mean to me. I don’t want this to be about writing things to give other people a certain impression of our marriage. On the other hand, I respect you so highly that it would genuinely be hard for me to exaggerate what I think and how I feel about you. How can I even begin to express how deeply I love you, and how grateful I am to be joined to you for the rest of our lives?
You amaze me. You delight me. You inspire me. I utterly adore you. After God Himself, and God’s Word the Bible, your smile is the third light of my life. You have held me captivated since that first day you shone it so boldly in my direction. I feel like I know so much about you, and yet in so many ways you remain such an exciting enigma to me! Why do people say that women are mysterious?! Men are mysterious! I am so excited about getting to know you more and understand you more as the days and years go by.
You are so manly, and so strong! You make me love being a woman, and especially your woman. I love being able to express my femininity with you, and I love being able to enjoy your masculinity. I love your hands beyond words! As for your hugs…I also like them…very much! I love to just watch you, to just gaze at you, to release myself to staring.
Your mind works so differently from mine! You help me to see things in completely unexpected ways, and with fresh new perspectives (but I still don’t accept that men are more logical or rational than women – stubborn face!)
I find it hard to believe that I don’t try even your patience with my thousand-and-one ideas. In case I do, thank you for not showing it.
You are so steeped in Christ and in God’s Word that I find it breathtaking. How can one person be so full of light?! How can one person be so full of integrity and Christlike character and so much prayer?! I love the way truth pours out from your spirit. I know you don’t like it when I call you “beautiful”. In that case, I’ll say you have gloriously handsome character!
Thank you for being such a patient husband with me. Thank you for listening and listening and listening and listening. You make me feel so cherished and so loved. All this makes the prospect of automatic, lifelong submission to you almost bearable for me! That said, you are far too gracious to ever mention it, so you may think I don’t know how much you pray to make that issue of submission a non-issue in our marriage. You may think I don’t know how much you pray about me and about this marriage altogether. I do know, and I thank you so much for investing so much of your life into my own life and into our future together. I am so excited about our spending the rest of our lives together, serving God and facing the future in one another’s arms.
Workwise you are so talented, but even more hardworking. That earnest look that you get on your face when you get rapt up in your work is so adorable that my fingers itch to reach out to you, but I don’t want to break your concentration. At these times, it is almost as if you forget that I am there – not that I’m jealous – honest! I am so humbled by how hard you work to provide for us. Thank you for allowing me to work alongside you in this. In fact, living with you has been deeply humbling altogether, but in the most beautiful way. You are so generous, and not only with material things but also with your time and with your prayers and your tenderness, and not only with me, but with everyone! I have learned so much from you. I consider myself so ambitious, yet despite that you have so effortlessly broadened my horizons.
In all, it has been such a privilege to walk step by step with you. Thank you for allowing me to walk beside you, rather than behind you. Thank you for supporting me in my own dreams, and for always being enthusiastic about my latest idea, no matter how wild or wacky it might seem! I am so excited about being able to work with you; that our life dreams are married into one even as surely as you and I are married to one another.
Thank you also for encouraging me to be the best I can be, for God and for myself. Additionally I want to be my very best for you. I want you to be able to delight in me as much as I delight in you. I want to be so beautiful for you, inside and out. I want to light up your life with joy and laughter so that you smile whenever you think of me, as surely as I smile whenever I think of you. I also want to completely dazzle you. I want you to find me breathtakingly lovely and utterly irresistible, as I find you.
I am so glad that God made our paths cross and that He poured out such tender love between us. I could not help falling for you when I discovered that such determined pursuit of Christ was “married” to such compelling masculine appeal. However, I would not have helped it even if I could have done. Falling in love with you has been the smartest thing I have ever done for myself after falling in love with Jesus. Thank you for allowing me into your heart. Thank you for the leadership you demonstrate in our union.
In a way, it can be easy to write these words out on a page. However, I hope that in the course of our day-to-day living it is so clear to you that each of these words is deeply true, and I also hope you understand how deeply I love you and adore you. You make it so easy to love you, and this is a task to which I am happy to fully devote myself!
I feel I’ve said enough here, and the rest will be strictly for your ears only!
God bless you so much my darling. God bless you, and God bless you, and God bless you and God bless you!
Yours always, your very own, forever, TT 😉
At this point, I guess some smart alec is going to point out: “But Tosin, you’re not married!”
While I concede that yes, that is true, indeed I am not married, and there is certainly no quasi-husband figure in my life, I don’t understand why that must be desperately relevant just now! People always say that you should affirm your husband in public, and that is what I am trying to do! While I don’t yet have a husband, I am just getting some practice in.
You know what, I have better things to do than to sit here arguing all day! If you don’t like it, perhaps you need to go away and mind your own business!!!! ;P 😉 ;P 😉
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