For reasons that regular readers of this blog will probably not be able to eventually escape reading about, (again and again and again and again!) I have recently found myself somewhat immersed in the world of – Christian romantic fiction. I used to love reading romantic fiction. However I have always avoided Christian fiction of all kinds, and especially Christian romantic fiction, because I’ve always expected huge dollops of cheese! These days I don’t read much fiction at all, possibly because I’m too rooted in the real world – ha ha ha! (Also reading about passionate and tender kissing especially always manages to stimulate deep yearnings within me, which are just not helpful right now – to be candid! (This is not true of reading about hugs, surprisingly! – That said, I’ve noticed that few authors tend to go into in-depth discussions of passionate hugging…))
However, in my wanderings, just today I came across a book review that really spoke to me. This is about homosexuality, and from the description it is not in any way presented as a romantic piece – ie, it was not celebrating the homosexuality. (However it was featured on the blog of someone who writes and reviews romantic fiction which is the connection.) I have not read the book myself, this is the first I am hearing of it, but from the review it presents a compelling and honest portrayal of homosexual desires. From the description of the book, I love the way it describes the main protagonist as having a “rock-solid faith”. Yes, exactly. Having this kind of struggle on one hand does not mean that you are not unflinchingly deep and sincere for God. On the other hand sexual purity is still something that God wants us to deal with in our hearts.
Homosexuality is not my struggle. If it was, I hope that I would be honest about it. However I am utterly sure that as well as Christians who are openly “out”, there will be deep, sincere and utterly grounded Christians I know, and am close to, and I love, and deeply respect and admire spiritually, who do struggle with this, who are possibly crying out to God night and day.
From my own personal battle for sexual purity in my heart there are two things I am sure of:
1. No matter what the struggle is, God IS bigger. God is bigger than our sexuality, He is bigger than our sexual failings, He is bigger than the battles that we face. This means that any time we feel tempted to feel ovewhelmed, that this thing is bigger than us…we can hold on to the assurance that it cannot be bigger than God.
2. No matter what the struggle is, there MUST be a solution in the Word of God. There simply must be.
From my own personal battle with other issues, including the anger that has almost threatened to consume me, it has become so clear to me that all my problems, including sexual purity, spring from my heart – as Jesus tells us in His Word. Matthew 15v19
By meditating on the Word of God, I have begun to experience true deliverance from these issues. However there are just so many heart issues that I am dealing with at present, that to get through all of them is going to take some time.
And yet please, please believe me on this. The Word of God DOES work. If homosexual attraction is your struggle, please believe me that the Word of God IS powerful enough to break this chain over your life.
This is what I do. I believe that it would similarly be useful to anyone else who might be struggling with issues of anger…or sexual purity…or homosexuality.
I take relevant Bible verses, and then for five minutes an hour during waking hours I meditate on a single Bible verse/or passage that deals with the issue. And then again if the issue crops up in my mind at any time, then I will similarly give 5 minutes to meditating on that relevant Bible passage at that time. I am only dealing with one issue at a time, so I am still having to negotiate all the other issues in the meantime. I have previously spoken on this blog about taking 30 minutes a day to meditate on relevant Bible passages, for the sake of cultivating sexual purity in my mind. The big problem that I had with that is that I could not maintain concentration for up to 30 minutes a day, and my mind would usually wander…often onto (unto?!) what I was trying not to think about! To be honest I struggle even with 5 minutes at a time. I’m sure that even little “blitzes” of ten seconds, 30 seconds at a time would be useful. After all, these destructive thoughts often flash into our minds, don’t they, for mere milliseconds, and yet still manage to make an impact – so I am confident that God’s word would equally have an impact, if applied even in short bursts.
I am self-employed so that does make it easier for me to be able to dedicate as much time as 5 minutes an hour. If you do not have this much time, then I urge you to try giving at least some time. Could you try a single minute an hour? Or if your concentration is longer than mine, then perhaps you could grab some longer chunks of time during your work breaks to head off with your Bible, or failing that, your memorised verses?
BIG (NO, HUGE!) CONFESSION: this is actually the real reason why I have taken my long break from a certain social media platform. I wanted to deal with this (sexual purity) issue once and for all and get it forcibly uprooted from my heart. And by the grace of God, His Word has worked for me!
WHEN TO STOP?
I am going to keep going on each issue until I am confident that the chains have been broken, and my mind no longer goes by itself to these issues, (even though I might still encounter occasional temptations). A while ago I accepted that I might have to keep meditating about some issues every day for the rest of my life. It is of course also helpful and wise to remove myself from things that inspire unholy thoughts in my mind – like certain movies, those books etc with all their kissing!
I am also hoping to build up my concentration until I can keep meditating for a full 30 minutes at once.
Next stop, slaying this anger monster!
Relevant Bible Passages:
This first following is my “Go To” passage for sexual purity. There are surely countless others. However I memorised this years ago…(note to self: I must work to add to this list…)
11 Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. 13 And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14 For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
If anyone can think of any other relevant Bible passages about sexual purity, then please leave comments below this post. I will create a specific post about Bible Verses/passages for triumphing in the battle for sexual purity.
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