This video illustrates why I don’t want a husband who works too hard [AI External Video] [3 mins read]

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The story in this video demonstrates why I do not want a husband who works too hard.

SPOILERS: So there is a married couple who have been married for 12 years. They love one another deeply. However, the husband never truly has quality time available for his wife because he is always working. Whenever they make plans to spend time together something work-related and pressing always comes up, something that demands his urgent attention right there and then, meaning that the quality time he had planned with his wife gets postponed yet further. In his mind, he thinks that he is being a good husband because he is sincerely doing it all for her and their future, working hard to be a good provider. However his wife eventually gets to the point where she is just too frustrated, and she walks away to his shock and amazement.

For myself, this is one of those issues in marriage where it requires a fine balancing act, and going too far in one direction or the other could be deeply detrimental to the marriage. Speaking for myself, on one hand, yes I want a husband who works hard and is not idle. On the other hand, I definitely do not want someone who is a workaholic. (Even though I am one myself – but that’s different! She says!) I’ve said this so many times on this blog: the reason why I want to get married is because I want a husband. It is the man himself that I want, and spending quality time with him that I yearn for. It is not the financial trappings of marriage or the financial security of marriage. As far as financial security is concerned I am working to create that for myself, and I think that working to create financial security for yourself is a prudent approach that any sensible woman should adopt, if at all possible.

So for me, as for the female lead in the story, it would completely defeat the object of marriage to get married to a man who would never actually be physically present. When I say that I myself am a workaholic “but that is different”, what I mean is that on one hand, I love to dream big dreams, and work to see them achieved. But I am more than capable of putting some work to the side, perhaps prioritising which dreams to work on. While I am single, and there is nothing else to take my attention, then yes I can give my full attention to my various goals. However, the expectation is that once I do get married, then clearly there will be something or rather someone else to focus on, so I can draw back.

However, the previous paragraph is written from the perspective of being an ambitious entrepreneur and with the expectation of making far more money that I actually need. The complication of this whole thing is when someone is working that hard not because they have tons of business ideas that they would like to work on, but rather because this is the amount of work that they need to do to merely survive. And sadly, that would increasingly describe most people, or so I would deduce from social media. So it is not as if those people, ie most people could just simply step back from some goals or reorder their priorities. This then is why I say, that if my husband fits into the category of people who increasingly find themselves forced to work long hours to simply make ends meet, I would rather embrace a simpler lifestyle, to have more time with him, than pursue the type of lifestyle that would require him, and to work all hours under the sun…and moon.