Public Service Announcement: A single woman does not strictly “need” a man’s leadership
Please hear me out! I promise I am not contradicting the Bible. In the Bible, God has granted leadership in marriage to …
Dealing with my own worst red flags: disdain
I did intend to write this as a post but then I got caught up in writing edits on my previous post, …
Society needs women to make poor choices
[Edits to add: – Just like the economy needs some people to make poor spending choices to flourish through the free circulation …
Hello again! Still madly “in like” after all these years!
Wow, it has been so long since I last wrote a blog post here. I feel a little shy in coming back! …
15+ years later, finally working out how to organise this blog…
Since I started writing this blog, I have been trying to work out how best to organise it. I’ve tried so many …
Finally back on this blog: From “Avoid avoid avoid” to “Go go go!”: a holy, funny, passionate love story
Wow, it has been so incredibly long since I last wrote a post on this blog. Not because my fervour for these …
10th August – thank you for your prayers!
Man, of late I have been busy! Today I thought I might get an early night (ie, going to bed before 2 …
17 July 2024, lots of thoughts!
17 July 2024, lots of thoughts! This blog post is an attempt both to express my thoughts and to get them straight …
Super-spontaneous post: Finally being honest with this blog, also I need to get serious about YouTube vids!
So in this post I am going to finally be fully honest. Actually, you know what? I have always been honest on …
Super-spontaneous post: YouTube video about regrets on buying homes
So… I’ve been doing quite a lot of doomscrolling on YouTube in the last few months, with a special focus on the …
Not another late night post!
Yes, this would be another of those late night posts. However, I am going to be good and instead just tap out …
Romance Writings Subblog
As of today 29 May 2024 the “Romance Writings” subblog is being discontinued. History’s Royal Highnesses: Cinderella is now available on a …
Blog posts to write 17 May 2024
Posts that I have been thinking of writing, hope to get to soon: -False flag Christians: insincere but loud Christians, in essence …
Updated 17 May 24: ONGOING: Talking about dermatillomania and hyperpigmentation
*****Post originally published 24 April 2024***** ***** 17th May 2024, video taken 17th May 2024 So it occurred to me to not …
Getting analytical about the real reason I’ve struggled with friendships…
…and realising that that also flows over into why I struggle to find a husband. For the first time ever it occurs …
What if you like someone…but are not sure about their culture?
This is hopefully going to be a very quick post, because, once again, I am writing this late into the night – …
Reminder whatever you want (in marriage)…
This is hopefully going to be a super quick post because I’ve got to get out of the house ASAP! It suddenly …
Long time no post, awkwardness, community, middle-class churches, labour exploitation versus financial success
I’m so conscious that I have not posted for a few weeks now. I must confess that I am procrastinating a little! …
Sat 02 March 2024 – video
As I add this video, it occurs to me that I have not written an actual post for a while. Such is …
Video: Tuesday 20 Feb
Well I have encountered a significant technical glitch this week, meaning that this week’s video is not truly a video but is …
Spontaneous Sunday (Monday) post, no video yet :(
So today I have as yet not been able to create my Sunday video, for quite good reasons. However, something occurred to …
Happy Belated Valentine’s Day!
I hope that everyone celebrating had a lovely day yesterday. ❤️❤️❤️
Sunday 11 Feb 2023 (Mon 12th Feb)
I make the point in the vid that I have been deliberately toning myself down to try to fit in to a …
Sunday 4th Feb 2024 – Video
Well I shot this video a few hours ago, and edited it. Since then however I have been busy with other work …
Video update: Sunday 28 January 2024
This update talks about a few blog post ideas that have been on my mind.
25 January 2024 Spontaneous video
To correct something I said within the video: yes I have been writing down my blog post ideas pretty much since I …
Hello again, dear friends!
And so it appears that I am going to resume writing posts directly on this subblog, after a hiatus of a few …
Recommended relationship schedule
1. Evaluate for character. In practice, this will be via two-yearing. This might sound like a huge waste of time, and as …
And…back to the blog, again!
Wow it has been so long since I directly posted here on blog.huggie-wuggie.com. This is largely because I have been posting on …
Enough is Enough! Social Justice Thoughts
Well almost three years ago to the day, I wrote a post stating that I wanted to set up a social justice …
And….back to the blog!
Over the last one and a half years, I have tried a radical new format for “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie”. However I don’t …
Brand new project: CLASSICALIS
I know I’ve been quite quiet on this blog of late. All the same, I have been working away if not directly …
An idea…
I’m sure that many readers will have heard, read, or watched the uploaded video of the incident between Amy Cooper and Christian …
UPDATED: A way forward for “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” 02 May 2020
02 May 2020I hope everyone is keeping well in these COVID-challenged times. I wanted to share a few further thoughts I have …
Happy 9th Birthday to this Blog!
So it was the 9th birthday of this blog last month, but I could not log in because I was locked out….and …
Rewriting the mental health post
MENTAL HEALTH:I have to rewrite the original post because I do not think I did a good enough job of communicating compassion. …
A sexist man’s dilemma…
This is one of my spontaneous posts, and it is one of those posts that may well disappear from this blog once …
Why I have not been praying for my marriage
I’ve just gotten off the phone to a dear Aunty who is setting up a ministry for mature single women. Oh man, …
Who this blog is not for
This post is a little tongue-in-cheek, but it is also quite serious. I was inspired to write this post after rereading an …
Most Radical Ideas
Last updated: 27th November 2022 I believe that this blog has a few ideas which are deeply, deeply radical. I believe that …
Why you should read this blog! Last Updated 28th Dec 2019
PLEASE NOTE: This post is an extremely important post. However the thoughts are on it are expressed a little haphazardly just now. …
Late night ponderings: male colleagues, tube strangers and the friendzone
Oh Huggie-Wuggie, how I’ve missed you! Firstly, apologies in advance if this post is a whole heap of incoherent nonsense – I’ll …
Talking about…Josh H
Josh H is one of the biggest inspirations behind this blog. His book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” has deeply (deeply!) influenced my …
OK, I know I said “coming soon”, and I do mean that, but…
OK, I know I said “coming soon”, and I do mean that, but… [Perhaps this is completely irrelevant to most people, but …
Stonking New Year’s prayer for myself
So I plan to share here a no-holds-barred prayer for myself that unapologetically asks God for absolutely everything maritally, every last thing …
Dealing with toxic people
Well I was just reading yet another post about how to deal with “toxic people”. And here are a few thoughts on …
Christmas Postings!
Well today has been Christmas Day 2018, and I have been somewhat determined to post a post today! But somehow the hours …
Why women should be the ones running away from the bouquet
https://www.facebook.com/Pretty52Official/videos/297027887757841/ This article seriously needs links to validate my various claims: I hope to add some shortly, perhaps over the Christmas break! …
The problem with the Church – or “Only perfect men need apply!” or Why my husband needs to be “perfect”
The Bible assumes sincerity. Certain instructions in the Bible assume sincerity – like a chemical reaction. Don’t be surprised if there is …
Trying not to say “the D word”…
A few provisos before I launch into this post proper. This post is quite spontaneous, so please forgive me if it lacks …
Half-married already! AND Expecting too much?
Post 1: Half-married already! Well after just writing this last post in which I desperately tried not to actually say anything of …
Needing “Mr Huggie-Wuggie” the blog, not the man!
(Well of course I need the man too, it’s just that in this post my focus is on the blog rather than …
True love story: Barack and Michelle (external link)
Article Link here I have so much respect for this couple and for their marriage. Their marriage seems to be a true …
True love story: Matt and Laura (external link)
Well after all those horror stories for Halloween, here is one beautiful story of seeming true love: this couple Matt and Laura …
Horror Stories for Halloween 4: More Kings and Queens
Here are a few more articles about potential horror stories in relationships. From Trophy wives to toxic wives: This article talks about …
Horror Stories for Halloween 3: The Unexpected Proposal
Yes, I know that Halloween is well and truly over, but the horror within relationships continues! Thankfully the issue discussed in this …
Horror Stories for Halloween 2a: Kings and their Queens
So this is a Halloween Relationship Horror story with a difference: What if the man you married always treated you perfectly, like …
Horror Stories for Halloween No 1: Hell
This is really not what I had in mind when I was talking about Horror Stories for Halloween. However, I think that …
Horror Stories for Halloween – Introduction
Well if I was to start talking about Halloween, and I was to start talking about my faith, perhaps some people would …
Making some changes!
I am currently making some changes to the appearance of this blog. I am tweaking some settings etc. So please do not …
And so we have SSL! (HTTPS://)
So a SSL certificate has recently been activated on this site, and this blog has now been transferred to the https protocol. …
Humbilify! – Updated
EDIT ADDED 5TH OCTOBER 2018 Well in the two days it has been since I wrote this post, I have actually been …
Well today…or the power of praying
Well today has been a seriously “interesting” day, and not in a good way. This is an old-fashioned term, but I’ve definitely …
Let’s talk about R.E.S.P.E.C.T!
OK, just a little disclaimer before I start this post. The title of this post is taken from the Aretha Franklin song, …
Overcoming my dermatillomania (please Lord!)
So today I would like to talk about something that to be honest, I would much rather not have to admit to. …
Statistically speaking…
So today, I was reading an article about cognitive biases. These are the errors of logic, judgement or reasoning which we are …
Updated 22nd July: The ever-growing, but definitive list of Essential Criteria for my husband
Addlog: ********** 22 July 2018 Someone who will pull his own weight domestically, without needing to be asked, begged or nagged ********** …
Love versus infatuation: I think I finally get it!
Well just a few days ago, I was sadly reflecting to myself that despite all these years of thinking, reading, reflecting – …
So I read some posts today!
PREAMBLE Well today I was reading some stories online about what people have experienced in their relationships. On one hand, these were …
“Doing the chasing”, versus mental and emotional health
I’ve been thinking a lot about mental health recently, both within and outside the topic of relationships. Thankfully God has blessed me …
Becoming Mrs Outstanding
I really don’t have much time to put together a post today, so this is going to have to be very short …
But what do we have in common?!
I was just thinking about this concept while sitting on public transport a few hours ago, and these are the thoughts that …
Sorry for the recent silence!
Sorry for the recent silence on this blog everyone! I’ve faced a few acute challenges in terms of being busy, and over …
Overcoming loneliness, a possible solution (please Lord!)
This is quite a spontaneous post. Apologies if it does not really make sense, I am going to have to reflect on …
To blog or not to blog?!
Well I had hoped and confidently expected that I would be able to write a post over this bank holiday weekend. You …
Overcoming Loneliness – 2nd Edit
I really should be fast asleep just now. In fact, I find myself in exactly the same circumstance I was in earlier …
Things I need to work on: Practising Kindness
This is something I have been thinking of for ages! Like years and years and years – since before I wrote *that* …
In defence of essential criteria lists
Well yesterday I read an article which argues that it is unrealistic and impractical to have lists of essential criteria for your …
My name is Tosin and…(Random Ramblings)
(Actually most much of the time these days my name is not Tosin – but that is a different story!) So… my …
Happy 7th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
Yep, it’s been seven good years of writing this blog! And here I am as single as ever! I’m trying to cast …
Happy Valentine’s Day 2018!
Wishing all readers of this blog a Happy Valentine’s Day, and week! I hope that you’ve all had an amazing day. For …
As with relationships, so with friendships – learning to be extremely fussy!
And so here we are at the point when I am finally asserting that when it comes to friendships, you have to …
10 Empowering New Year Prayers for Singles for 2018
So it is the beginning of yet another New Year, and you are still single! Well you’re in great company! (Points at …
→ January 14, 2018
1. The “Friendship” blog should actually have two distinct categories: “Friends” for dealing with people who are actually friends, and “People” for …
10 Beautiful New Year Prayers for your Marriage
New years are a great time to take stock, and look back in gratitude for the year that has just ended, and …
Friendships/People: Super Spontaneous!
These thoughts are literally just occurring to me now, when I’m supposed to be doing other things! Thoughts that occurred to me: …
Friendship: But we agreed!
I just spontaneously wanted to write this post to express some of the irks I feel about friendships. Before I jump into …
Friendship: Making a start!
Well I finally started my social justice blog, and now for the turn of the friendship blog, which is also something I’ve …
Huggie-Wuggie: this time next year…
So here we are at the beginning of yet another new year… I can’t help wondering what this new year might bring …
Social Justice: Remembering my Materialistic Youth
Well I said that I would challenge myself to make a start on this social justice blog before the end of this …
Happy New Year 2018
This post comes to wish all readers of “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” a Happy New Year in 2018! I hope that you will …
Merry Christmas, and please help with this new blog idea!
I would really like to wish all the readers of “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” an amazing Christmas season, or what remains of it. …
When faith dies
Let me start off by reassuring any readers that no, my faith has not died. And by the grace of God it …
Bible Verse: 1 John 4v18
1 John 4v18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear. Photo by Mbll on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 John 4v8
1 John 4v8 God is love. Photo by Geralt on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 John 4v7
1 John 4v7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God, and everyone who loves is born of God …
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v13
1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love. Photo by Bess-Hamiti on …
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v8
1 Corinthians 13:8 Love never fails. Photo by Soorelis on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v7
1 Corinthians 13v7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Photo by Andreas Lischka on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v6
1 Corinthians 13v6 Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth Photo by Jill Wellington on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v5b
1 Corinthians 13:5 Love is not provoked, thinks no evil Photo image by Komposita on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v5a
1 Corinthians 13v5 Love does not behave rudely, does not seek its own Image by Gino Crescoli on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v4c
1 Corinthians 13v4c Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up. Photo by Annca on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v4b
1 Corinthians 13v4 Love does not envy. Photo by Petra D. on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v4
1 Corinthians 13v4 Love is patient, love is kind. Photo by James Chan on Pixabay
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v3
1 Corinthians 13v3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be …
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v2
1 Corinthians 13v2 And though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. …
Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 13v1
1 Corinthians 13v1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding …
Bible Verse: Proverbs 31v30
Proverbs 31:30 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. Photo by Lillaby on Pixabay
Bible Verse: Proverbs 12v4
Proverbs 12:4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband Photo by Pixel2013 on Pixabay
Bible Verse: Proverbs 4v7
Proverbs 4v7 “Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.” Photo by Komposita on Pixabay
Bible Verse: Ecclesiastes 4v12
Ecclesiastes 4:12 “…And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Photo by Conger Design on Pixabay
Bible Verse: Ecclesiastes 4v9
Ecclesiastes 4v9 Two are better than one, for they have a good reward for their labour Photo by Bess-Hamiti on Pixabay
Proverbs 14v1
Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house… Photo by 12019 on Pixabay
Proverbs 15v17
Proverbs 15:17 Better is a dinner of herbs, where there is love, than a fatted calf with hatred Photo by Nietjuh on …
Proverbs 31v30
Proverbs 31:30 But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Image by Monica Ly on Pixabay
Proverbs 18v22
Proverbs 18v22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the LORD.Photo by Sylvia Tan on Pixabay
Amos 3v3
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together unless they are agreed? Photo by Bess-Hamiti on Pixabay
Sexual Purity as a Feminist choice
Well I recently came across a certain article. In it, the writer described how she had taken a vow of sexual purity …
Hello Again RSS!
Well just over two years after initially “disabling” RSS, I have now added it back to the site. (Actually, it never really …
Editing: Why it is so hard to find an outstanding spouse
So today I find myself in the position of wanting to make substantial changes to an existing post. But how to do …
What’s waiting for you at the end of your tether?
Quick answer: whatever you have prepared, so prepare well. This blog is not really the place for this particular post. However I …
Like father, like daughter!
Oh man, I just have to share with you verbatim what my Dad just said! Talking about the tragedy of the Texas …
Dear Lord, please grant me patience!
Or, Why do I have such acute emotional needs?! So I was sitting there just minutes ago, just casually and happily minding …
Trying to understand sex and sexuality
In this post I am going to try to talk about something that I have greatly struggled with for a very, very, …
Let’s talk about…power dynamics in relationships!
or, Why can’t you and I both be powerful?! Actually, before I launch into the post proper I have to confess that …
Please come back in 5 years time!
Well it turns out that thi s day of the year, October 16th, has historically been a very prolific date in the …
Still struggling with structure!
So here I am after writing this blog for 6 and a half years, still trying to create a systematic structure for …
What does it mean to let the man take the lead (in starting the relationship)?!!!
This is one of those spontaneous posts that just occurs to me and I feel like expressing. Whatever else I might “get” …
Found on Twitter! Single Christians be like…
I found this video via Twitter, and I thought it was great, so I’d like to share it with you all! [youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyQiT96Xu_g&feature=youtu.be&a[/youtube]
Deep conditioning your marriage
I’ve recently been getting into looking after my natural afro hair. But I’m trying to find a quick, easy, inexpensive way of …
How do you know he is not going to beat you?!
Related in a way to the previous question, “How do you know he is not going to be unfaithful?”… This really is …
How do you know he’s not going to be unfaithful..?
Someone once asked me how I knew that my husband was not going to be unfaithful. And I just stared! It is …
The Lie of Capitalism
I know what you might be thinking: “Tosin, what is a post about Capitalism doing on your Huggie-Wuggie blog?! Have you possibly …
Internet Dating: Postscript
I initially published this post back in 2012, then I unpublished it, for reasons which I have now completely forgotten… ————————————————————– A …
Hearts and Character
Well I have just written this post on my Bible blog, but I was feeling so riled and worked up about this …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Crunching the numbers
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about this since I published my earlier “let’s talk about money” posts: it’s all very well …
Why it is so hard to find an outstanding spouse: now edited
This post has been majorly revised, the new version is available here: https://blog.huggie-wuggie.com/editing-why-it-is-so-hard-to-find-an-outstanding-spouse/ I initially drafted out this post back in March …
Cringey Posts
I was recently reading/giggling through a certain post here, and thinking, for the hundredth time, just how cringey this post is! And …
Let’s talk about money baby! Accounting – further holes: large gifts
I’ve recently thought of a very significant further hole in the idea of spouses having individual accounts as well as communal family …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Accounting for our differences
In addition to the out and out bad character which I looked at in the other part to this post, these are some …
Running the race of Character
If you were asked to spontaneously run a race or obstacle course without any warning at all, then your achievement in the …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Character issues
Thinking about money, on one hand I can be extremely romantic! I will say about my husband: “Money doesn’t matter!” That is, …
Married versus single relationships blogger – which is better?!
I’ve just spent a few hours reading through another website; isn’t it funny how so many of us feel qualified to give …
Happy 6th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
This post is *so* long overdue! This blog turned six years old back in March! So yes, it has been six years! 6 …
My long-lasting relationships
Well after I had read the post referred to in my own previous post here on this blog, it got me thinking …
That thing when… (external post)
It has been so long since I last posted that I was honestly scared to look at the date of my last …
And so…
And so, I finally started writing out the post for “my determination for myself as a wife.” But guess what?! It is …
The “Looking Good” Thing
So here is an idea that I’ve been wanting to write about for a few months now. This idea is a little …
More thoughts on marital prayers
I’ve written so many posts here about how to pray for a marriage. I guess it would make sense for me to …
Rethinking this two year thing!
Well you know this weekend I could so have written two substantial Huggie-Wuggie posts – at least! But you know what I …
Dating your man after the wedding!
Well it has been a while since my last Huggie-Wuggie post, and I felt that I needed to explain to you all …
Born to submit to you (my darling)!
Well I don’t think that it is any secret that the Biblical theory of automatic submission from a wife to her husband …
How marriage is both conditional and unconditional
Here’s the thing: I believe that to a certain extent marriage has to be conditional. Unconditional love is one of absolutely the …
No Huggie-Wuggie Post today – sorry! :) :)
Well it’s been a little while since I wrote an article here on Huggie-Wuggie. This weekend I’ve been extremely keen to write …
A little bit of humility…
I’d like to apologise to anyone who has been reading this blog as I have not exactly been the epitome of humility …
Tosin’s List: Part 3: Desirable Characteristics
HUGE HUGE PROVISO! Before I publish this post, I want to make it clear that I know that I really, really, have …
Further Essential Characteristics 16 July 2016
TEMPORARY POST: To September 30 2016 This post expands the post “Essential Characteristics for my husband“ ———————————————————– A few further thoughts I …
Coming soon: Tosin’s List: My determination for myself as a wife
I want to make it clear that I know that I really, really, have to write a post about my own determination …
Tosin’s List Part 2: The Essential Characteristics
This is the second part to this post. Part 1: Why the List: Available here Part 2: The Essential Characteristics: THIS POST …
The Primacy of Friendship OR putting friendship first
This is an idea that has only really crystallised in my mind today. On this blog I have spoken so many times …
Tosin’s List! Part One – Why the List!
Edit: 2nd July 2016 Now that I’ve had a chance to think about this a bit more, I think that this post …
My biggest fear…just now!
Before launching into “my biggest fear”, a little admission. A few days ago I sat down and tried to write a blog post …
Aaaaaaand…back to the real world!
Well yesterday I published quite an excited post about how amazing everything is, and my beautiful dreams of a beautiful marriage, and …
Happy 5th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
So the fifth anniversary of this blog occurred all the way back in March! That’s five years of thinking about marriage, and …
The problem with “just leave”
Recently “Nigerian Facebook” (that is Facebook as used by people of Nigerian descent or association) has been alight with the story of …
Taking Marital Advice from a single woman?!
I recently came across a Facebook post about marriage. You know, one of those facebook posts giving all sorts of helpful encouraging …
Yet another “Haven’t posted for so long!” post! – Or, passionately in friendship
Well after what seems like months of not quite getting around to writing a post, I am in exactly that kind of …
A story that needs to be told – PS
This is a post script to my last post, available here. Well after writing my last post a few weeks ago, a …
A story that needs to be told…
Firstly, I really want to apologise if it seems that I have been blowing my own trumpet so much on this blog. …
Communication Meltdown!
Recently I found myself down one of those internet article rabbit holes, where I will almost compulsively start reading one article after another, …
The Character Characteristics
Well last night I wrote and published quite an angry post about unexciting aspects of male character that I would find hard …
The Characteristics aka Angry Ranting Post!
These are a few of the characteristics that I would love to find in a husband. However, these are also the characteristics …
Why it is so hard [for me] to find an outstanding spouse!
A little waffly preambleOh wow! I have not published any posts to this blog for months and months! In terms of actual …
Dear Mr Huggie-Wuggie: I wanna be your best friend!
Well following my little love story about best friends I’ve been dreaming a lot about a marriage where my husband and I …
PS – Talking about Adultery!
I’ve been reflecting on the post I recently wrote about adultery. I’m so sorry if I was graceless in my post. There …
Goodbye RSS!
After many years and thousands of feeds I have decided to disable the RSS feeds function on this site. The chief reason …
Talking about…adultery!
A few weeks ago I came across the following article, about a famous author who left his wife for another woman. Daily …
Fulfilling his needs!
Well I’ve just written a post which was indirectly all about trying to communicate my needs to my husband – as usual! …
Of husbands and husbandry
I’m sure most people will have come across the idea that women are supposedly irrational or overly emotional. Personally speaking, I have …
Apologies for confusing posts!
I’d like to apologise to anyone who finds my posts confusing! There are two big reasons why this might be (that currently …
Celebrating some amazing friends!
Despite being on this blog, this is a post that is purely about friendships, with people of either gender! So over the …
Let’s talk (again!) about doing the pursuing…
Apologies in advance: this is a particularly waffly post! It is a subject that I struggle to understand, so I have literally …
How to turn someone down
OK, now for the second part of this post: this is the matching part to the first post, how to ask someone …
How to ask someone out
There is now a matching post to this, “How to turn someone down” Well here I am, supposed to be working away. …
Let’s talk about…masturbation!
Ha ha ha, only joking, let’s not!Instead, please check out this incredible video on the subject from this year’s Rhetoric, by a …
Ignoring my Huggie-Wuggie?!
Well today I’ve got to admit that I was in two minds about whether to write a post here or not. On …
Shyness, post script
As a postscript to my previous post, there were a few extra things that occurred to me later. I must admit that …
Let’s talk about…shyness!!!
So it’s that thing where I have not written a post for quite a while on my blog, and for some reason …
To rekindle your fire, try rekindling your friendship!
Well I have been thinking as always about relationships. I can’t quite remember how the following thought process happened in my mind, …
Short Story: Mr and Mrs “Married Three Years”
Pretending to be asleep, I watched my husband as he prepared for the day ahead of him. Still seething from last night’s argument, …
Blaming my parents for everything…
Disclaimer/Confession: I actually thought of this post a few days ago, while I was typing out my last post. However, as I …
Body, Soul and Spirit!
The ideas I hope to express in this post first occurred to me months and months ago. However, they were some of the …
In hot pursuit
This post is a development of ideas I have expressed before. However I first thought of it in this light last night …
Deserving you – Postscript (And…Headphones!)
Well there was a very important postscript that occurred to me right after I wrote the previous post, Deserving You. It was …
Deserving you
The slogan on this graphic reads:“Only God can give you the love you’re looking for, and only God can give you the …
Coconuts!
This is not really a full post, but rather a quick anecdote. So I have finally been trying to get serious about …
External Link: 15 Things Ambitious Girls Do A Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating
I randomly came across this post online, and on reading it immediately identified with the points made there. 15 Things Ambitious Girls …
Building a Foundation for your singleness
This is the second attempt at writing this post. My mind is like jelly right now, perhaps because I have been eating …
What true care truly looks like
Yeah, it has been a bit of a while since I last wrote a post on either of my blogs. On one …
And also…those songs!
You know, after shutting off for the day, I’ve had to turn my computer back on just to make this post! So …
Talking about the day to day!
Well you know how I said that I might be winding down activity on this blog? And I explained the reason why?! …
Can I tell you something?!
This is a message for…surprise surprise – a certain someone!Can I tell you something?! I hope that this is not completely over …
Ode to a Hoodie
You know how I recently said that I might be winding up activity on this blog? Well I simply could not leave …
Rethinking this blog….
Well I’ve got some news for anyone who might follow this blog…I’m thinking of stopping or reducing blog posts on this blog, …
…But I was outstanding!
This is one of those (many, many) blog posts that occurred to me in that dreamy hinterland between sleep and wakefulness, where …
Marriage as a performance art
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE**********As with last week’s post, this post will be most relevant within marriage itself. However, it will be most useful to …
Talking about Vision!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE**********I think that the ideas contained within this post are going to be most useful within marriage itself. However, it is …
External Link: Desiring God – “On My Wedding Day”
This beautiful post was shared by my sister on Facebook. I agree that it is a lovely idea for an engaged couple …
Deconstructing “I Love You”
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone who is at the point of exchanging declarations of love with someone else… ******************************************* …
Happy Resurrection Sunday 2015!
This post is to wish all readers of “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” a lovely Resurrection Sunday 2015. Hallelujah, Christ is risen indeed! …
Happy 4th Birthday to “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!”
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is not specific to any relationship status, other than my own! ******************************************* This post is celebrating four years …
I waited for you!
I have not yet written this week’s Huggie-Wuggie post. However I would love to share with you this video, which features the …
Dear Mr Huggie-Wuggie… Talking about shyness
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who might struggle with shyness. It might also be relevant for people who …
The wrong platform!
I know that this is most likely the wrong platform to use. I’m also worried that I might be building myself up …
Love is…quiet, peaceful evenings
Love is sitting quietly, hugging, saying nothing in absolute silence, having a conversation that is communicated entirely through looks and hugs. ———————————————————————– …
Love is…watching the sunset together
Love is… sitting outside… [redacted: too much information!]… revelling in an abundance of friendly affection and tender memories: “Do you remember when?!”; …
Big cause of awkwardness: Premature Emotional Intimacy
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who also struggles with awkwardness as I do. In terms of stages it …
Strands and Building Blocks
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to people who are considering whether to get married, for instance people who …
The Princess and the Prayer!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is really just about trying to find yet another creative way to thank the person who might have …
Quick Idea: 10 things I love about you!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this idea would be most helpful for people who are married ******************************************* This is really cute. I …
Sorry for the silence, thanks for your prayers!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This very brief post was written to reassure readers that I was fine, despite not posting on my blogs for …
Dirty Girl Ministries: Support for Pornography and sexual addiction habits in women
I just came across this site that is dedicated to supporting women who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. Dirty Girl Ministries
Christian Romantic Fiction – The Heroes!
…And unto my second post of the evening that has in part been inspired by “Christian Romantic Fiction”. Just a quick observation. …
Sexual Purity – Homosexuality
For reasons that regular readers of this blog will probably not be able to eventually escape reading about, (again and again and …
Church V Marriage part 2
You don’t genuinely care, about me, or God. You are just interested in adding some extra multicultural kudos to your prayerless gathering, …
How joining a church is like entering a marriage
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who also goes to church, examining a few similarities between “church” and “a …
PS Fat Hints – That song…!
How could I have forgotten this in my super long post?! Yeah, that song!!!! That beautiful and incredible song! Just wow. I …
Simply Anywhere!
This is the second entry in my “Fat Hints” category, and thankfully it is a lot shorter than the first one: I …
Fat Hints!
I think I’m actually going to dedicate a category here on this blog to big fat hints, starting with this post! I’ve …
How to be truly beautiful: from the inside out
This is the final “December” post that was chosen in the poll of December posts to write. If anyone follows either of …
Anatomy of a Marriage made in Heaven
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to anyone who might be wishing to have a marriage made in heaven, …
Already desperately in love!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** If what I describe in this post is truly how many of us “fall in love”, then I think that …
EXTERNAL LINK: Why Marriage is harder than ever! (In the US)
Why Marriage is harder than ever (in the US)
Just in case you’re not the one praying (after all!)
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This is such a personal post – ha ha ha! Possibly an example (yet another one!) of how to be …
Happy New Year 2015!
This post comes to wish all readers of “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” a Happy New Year! Wishing you all the best for a …
People who have changed my life: My Husband!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** As this is an open letter to my husband, it is quite a personal post about my life, so it …
How women make themselves cheap
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for women who are single and looking, encouraging them to insist on …
Dear Lord, please let it be him!
Dear Lord, If there really is someone out there praying for me; investing his time, effort and determination to make a deeply …
A Business-Minded Spouse as a Business Investment
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think this post is most relevant for people who are single and ambitious. It provides a new way of …
Sexual Purity: More Thoughts
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** Once again this post concerns general sexual purity, so I believe that it is generally useful for everyone no matter …
Talking about pornography and sexual fantasies
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This is not about any particular relationship stage but is written to encourage sexual purity at any stage. ******************************************* Guilt …
Marriage is not an “eat as much as you like” buffet!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to all relationship stages, but most useful before marriage to help get a …
December Posts to Write? Short Summaries
Dear Huggie-Wuggie Reader, I would please appreciate your input in choosing the posts to write for December. A number of exciting post …
December 2014 Posts to Write Poll
Please choose 4 answers. The top 4 answers will get written up as posts. Closing Date for votes is Thursday 27th November …
Married to Myself?
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post will hopefully challenge people to imagine what it would be like to be married to them, so I …
November ideas that have occurred to me (to be voted on)
1. How to encourage someone to be the best they can be 2. I want to be so beautiful for you, my …
Welcome to the friendzone!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for people who are single and looking, struggling with feelings for one …
Sample Newsletter
Dear {field1}, I hope this week is going excellently for you! Lots of exciting things have been happening here at Huggie-Wuggie Central …
The interaction between personality and character
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is about evaluating someone‘s personality and character before getting romantically involved with them, so I’d say it is …
October posts to write – ideas that have occurred to me in October/ish
1. Married to myself: Woman in china, recent woman, etc WRITTEN 2. Welcome to the friendzone!WRITTEN 3. Relationship ambivalence – can’t remember …
Acting like an idiot!
Well I’ve just written out a blog post just to try to express my thoughts regarding this “awkward thing”. To be honest, …
Awkward!
Wow, as I sit here typing at this post, I am giggling away, for a number of reasons. A significant reason is …
Unhappily single?!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I’d say that this post is most relevant for people who are single, or who might be going out with …
Funto Ojumu on Sexuality
Please check out this video of one of my relatives discussing her views on sexuality! [youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_BESQP_0W8[/youtube]
Still Talking about Two Years!
This is a postscript that I have been meaning to add ever since I wrote the last post on “Two Years”. There, …
OK, what should I write about?!
This is a quick post asking for some reader input on the following issue: My biggest struggle with this blog is to …
Presenting myself to you in weakness
I would like to start this post with what is now becoming a customary thank you to whoever may be praying for …
Playing hard to get – further thoughts
This is a short addition to the existing thoughts I have already expressed about playing hard to get. One further reason why …
Further thoughts about two years…
Well I was thinking away about people in general, and remembering some issues I found myself having to shake my head. I …
Why people don’t listen
In this post I would like to offer a few thoughts on why … people don’t listen How women make themselves cheap …
True concern – Postscript
In this post, I would like to offer further clarification about the “true concern” post. As I was originally writing that post …
Dear Mr Potential Huggie-Wuggie…About awkwardness and vulnerability
This post is directed towards any man who could potentially become my very own Mr Huggie-Wuggie, to explain myself and my possible …
Further prayers for my marriage
These are further useful prayers to pray for my spouse and marriage. In prayer I roughly subdivide my time between the 3 …
So many ways to have a great marriage… And yet…
I was thinking recently over some of the thoughts that I have expressed here, and a few other ideas. And something that …
Where does true concern come from? And where does it go?
In this post I am going to address something that should really be central to this blog, but is not. That is, …
What if my husband won’t listen to my ideas?!
In this post, I would like to present to you something which has been my ongoing, quiet nightmare for a while. …
Why marital prayer is like your kidneys
I’ll admit that the title of this post is quite unusual! For many years, I’ve been puzzling over the idea of prayer …
Why we need each other!
Well I recently wrote a post where I thanked an unknown someone for praying for me. I’ve been meaning to write a …
Waiting for You!
Please check out this beautiful rendition of poetry about waiting for the right man. [youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuraJpB0OJg[/youtube] [Comment Details]
Further thoughts about Submission
I think it is fair to say that the idea of wifely submission has been one of my biggest hang-ups about marriage …
My Personal Values
Here I’ve tried to list down all my own personal values regarding dating and relationships. This page is likely to change a …
Moving back to London?! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here While I was in London, thankfully I did not …
Moving back to London?! Part 1
Well I recently celebrated another anniversary of my arrival here in this beautiful city. I love this city so much. However, from …
OBSESSED!!!! And rightly so! And about time!!!!! And *proud* of it!!!!!
OK, I’ll admit it. I have just raced through writing my blog post on my other blog so that I could finally …
Struggling against an overactive imagination!
By the grace of God, God has blessed me with a very strong imagination. This is possibly the single biggest gift that …
Joy and Sadness!!!
This is a spontaneous blog post that just needs to be written right now! I am writing this blog post from a …
The difference between “friendly” and “friendship”
This post builds a little on last week’s post, about what friendship is “really”. This new post seeks to examine the subject …
What is friendship really? Part 2
After writing last week’s post on “What is Friendship?” I’ve been thinking a little more about the subject. What occurred to me …
What is friendship?
I must admit that it is somewhat embarrassing for me to have to write this post. After all, this concerns something that …
Thank you for your prayers – Again!
I’ve just published this post on my other blog. However, for some reason, I feel compelled to post it here too! ———————————————————— …
What it means to be attractive Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I used to beat myself up with these …
What it means to be attractive Part 1
(Only because I could not bring myself to call this post “What it means to be hot!”) After I posted last week’s …
Lord, please give me a Prayer Warrior!
Well a few things have happened recently. The conclusion I have come to is that I seriously have to find me a …
Love is sincerely not about the other person! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. This post is all about contradictions. Having said that …
Love is sincerely not about the other person! Part 1
Let me firstly apologise for not blogging here for a few weeks. I’ve been otherwise occupied! During that time, my mind has …
The strange balance of marriage
I’ll start with a confession: I have only just thought of this blog post right now, while I was writing the postscript …
Whatever you want in marriage – postscript
Well I was thinking about my last post which greatly focused on marriage and sex, and I thought it would be wise …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here Even if you are …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Imagine for a minute that your chosen partner is …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 1
In this post, I am going to make quite a bold claim. I was thinking about this vaguely a few weeks ago. …
How do I know if he’s my friend?! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here In our days, we have the benefits of modern …
But Lord, I’m lonely *now*!!!!
Well I’m going to start this post by making my customary observation that it has been so long since I posted here. …
All about two years Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. However, if you had simply allowed yourself to get …
All about two years Part 1
In this blog post I would like to write about my personal conviction regarding “the two year thing”. For people who do …
Mrs Huggie-Wuggie – or having a high huggie-wuggie quotient Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Unattractive Christians As I write this, it occurs to …
Being Mrs Huggie-Wuggie – or having a high huggie-wuggie quotient Part 1
Well today I had been planning to write a post about my personal conviction about the power in getting to know someone …
“…but he’s not a Christian!”
As I start typing this it is already past midnight, and we are now technically into Monday, where usually I would type …
Within the marriage itself… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here If however, you did not spend the same time …
Within the marriage itself… Part 1
In my last post, I looked at a new and simple way to approach relationships before marriage to give each marriage the …
Revised relationship schedule Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here POTENTIAL PROBLEMS: This is possibly the biggest potential problem …
Revised relationship schedule Part 1
Happy New Year to all readers of this blog! I’m kinda hoping to keep to a more systematic schedule myself for writing …
A moment of sobriety…
Well my previous post, published just a short while ago, was supposed to be the last post on this blog for this …
To be honest… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here And then naturally, I also need that he should …
To be honest… Part 1
To be honest, as I write this post, I have to admit that I don’t have a general destination in mind or …
Look younger than I am…
OK – erm – how to start this?! Can I ask you all a question: how old exactly do I look?! Because …
Anticipating the Pressure Points of your marriage
This is as usual a blog post that I have been thinking of for some time. I was thinking that in a …
Expecting “perfect” behaviour from imperfect people Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here In a way, I feel then that this message …
Expecting “perfect” behaviour from imperfect people Part 1
I was thinking recently about one big reason why many people face disappointment in marriage. To put it simply, life presents many …
The difference between love and lust Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. I guess though there is also the very important …
The difference between love and lust Part 1
I came across an article with this same title a few weeks ago. It was also from a Christian writer. I had …
Building a heavy-duty marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here Following on from this, here are a few …
Building a heavy-duty marriage – Part 1
Well today (that is, when I first wrote out this post) I was going to publish a post about building a heavy-duty …
Free Ebook: The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect
This is an ebook of an existing post here on Finding Mr Huggie Wuggie. It is available as a free ebook in …
Free Ebook: Is There Only One? Knowing the Will of God in Marriage
This is an ebook of an existing post here on Finding Mr Huggie Wuggie. It is available as a free ebook in …
Free Ebook: Overview of Marriage
This is an ebook of an existing post here on Finding Mr Huggie Wuggie. It is available as a free ebook in …
What everyone else knows…Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here If you have identified an issue in your spouse, …
What everyone else knows… Part 1
This week I have been sifting through a number of Huggie-Wuggie posts. While doing that, a few thoughts occurred to me. The …
Free E-Book: Character and Other Issues in Marital Communication
I used to think that communication would be comparatively easy within marriage, that the period before marriage might be filled with communication …
Free Ebook: Legitimate Self-Concern Versus Unconditional Love In Marriage
I have personally struggled greatly with the tension between considering my own needs in marriage, and offering unconditional love to my husband …
Free Ebook: A Husband Equals…A Glass Ceiling?
This ebook asks whether it could be possible that many husbands effectively hinder the progress of their wives, purely because of ego. …
Free E-Book: Ladies, know your CYCLE!
An ebook giving advice to ladies about being aware of the potential impact of hormones to arouse certain romantic thoughts or feelings. …
Free E-Book: The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow
An ebook appealing especially to Christian ladies to insist on the highest standards of sexual purity within their relationships. It is available …
What if my needs change?
Well I’ve been thinking away about these topics as usual, and thinking about my favourite things…. However a thought that has been …
Excellent husband needed, not just wanted! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Well when the idea for last week’s post first …
Excellent husband needed, not just wanted! Part 1
OK, so within the week I found myself in a position of crying out to God in frustration about a number of …
Asking the wrong questions?
Well I’ve logged on for the purpose of writing an altogether different post, which I shall hopefully also write after this one. …
Avoiding Mr Perfect
This is a blog post which might seem to say the opposite of what I usually say. However, by the grace of …
Rethinking “lost marriage years”
(UPDATE 28th July 2014 This post was split off from an earlier existing post.) Something that strikes me now as it has …
Playing proactive versus playing hard to get Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here This is what playing hard to get looks like: …
Playing proactive versus playing hard to get Part 1
Finally, finally, I am able to address this issue which I find unspeakably frustrating! It’s like this. As a person, as a …
Two threats to marital love
Over the course of the week, I have been thinking away about marriage, as always. For anyone who follows this blog, you …
Unconditional love versus fear, anger and resentment
I have been thinking a lot about unconditional love recently. After starting off here on this blog with a number of posts, …
Happy Fathers’ Day, from Miss Greedy-Indeedy
Yes, people, in case you have not already realised, let me make it clear that I am Miss Greedy-Indeedy! And this is …
My dreams of my spouse… versus God’s dream for my spouse Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Actually, with my big dreams about life etc (and …
My dreams of my spouse… versus God’s dream for my spouse Part 1
A funny postscript to last week’s post: Someone asked me whether my prayers had worked yet! While yes, I believe my prayers …
How to pray to receive a spouse – further thoughts
I’ve previously written a post about how to pray for a spouse. This post here builds on that previous post. This new …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The other parts are available here: Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 2
This is the second part to an article posted last week Part 3 of this article is available here The three parts …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 1
The three parts of this post have now been compiled into a single free ebook, available in a wide variety of formats. …
The disadvantage of youth?
After all the thoughts that have occurred to me on the subject of love, relationships and marriage, I was recently reflecting on …
Excellent wife material? Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. I do not think that there is anything wrong …
Excellent wife material? Part 1
I’m going to apologise in advance as this post is largely about myself, so it might have limited relevance to other people! …
Some thoughts on Sexual Temptation Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here This is all the more true, of course, if …
Some thoughts on Sexual Temptation Part 1
OK, this is a bit of a big post title. Before you read this post, if you are a Christian, I STRONGLY …
The meaning of “For better, for worse”
This is a post that expands an issue that I lightly touched on last week: the meaning of “For better or for …
Positive Feed-Forward
Happy Easter Sunday to everyone, happy Resurrection Sunday! Well, as this is Easter Sunday, mindful of the sacrifice that Christ made for …
A positive, prayerful way of giving difficult feedback
In my many thoughts about marriage, something that I have thought about a lot is a constructive way of handling difficult issues, …
Positivity!
I’m currently struggling to decide whether many of my recent blog posts here have been overwhelmingly negative. If you have been reading …
Are you better off married….or single? Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here When we are dreaming happily about marriage in general …
Are you better off married….or single? Part 1
Let me start off by quickly saying that if I could choose between having a brilliant marriage and having a brilliant life …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 4
This is the fourth part of this post. The first is available here The second is available here The third is available …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 3
This is the third part of this post. The first is available here The second is available here All parts of this …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 2
This is the second part of this post,the first is available here All parts of this blog post are now available here …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 1
All parts of this post are now available together as a single free ebook in a full variety of ebook formats here …
Happy Mothers’ Day!
Wishing Happy Mothers’ Day to all the mothers, grandmothers, aunties, family friends, sisters and other ladies who have helped shaped us into …
A real man versus Mr Wonderful Dream
This is an idea that in a way flows quite smoothly on from the post of love versus infatuation which I wrote …
The difference between love and infatuation
Well Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! In honour of Valentine’s day I am going to write today on a subject that is very …
Feelings of inadequacy
I don’t know why it is, but my mind will be buzzing with interesting and exciting ideas for blog posts all week, …
Thoughts about Communication
Here are some thoughts that I have been thinking about communication. I used to think that communication would be comparatively easy within …
Why the time before your marriage can be the most powerful part of your marriage
I am sure I have expressed these thoughts before on this blog, perhaps scattered through different blog posts. I believe that the …
Tosin’s Guy Rules
This is a post that I’ve been thinking of writing for a while. However, even though this is a blog that gets …
Communication Issues – Continued
Well after writing last week’s post on communication, I was reflecting a bit and thinking that there might be lots more reasons …
Merry Christmas from Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
Ah, so Mr Huggie-Wuggie, it seems as if you have managed to elude my grasp for this year also?! Thank you to …
Communication Issues are often Character Issues, Trust Issues
I’ve been thinking a lot about “communication” in marriage. Various wise and knowledgeable people refer to it as the lifeblood in any …
Dating
In my posts, I refer a lot to “dating”. I often speak quite negatively about it. Here, I thought I would clarify …
I don’t love you any more!
I sometimes wonder why it is in the midst of hard times that people break up. I always think that that is …
My attitude to Internet Dating
This is a blog post that I’ve been thinking about writing for a long time. A number of people have advised me …
How to pray to receive a spouse – one way
[This post contains quite a long preamble – so here is a link to jump straight to the actual content of how …
Everybody changes!
Last week I considered the subject of how to be confident, even from before marriage, that a future spouse will keep getting better …
The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Overtaking? Sometimes, if someone is aggressively pursuing excellence, even …
The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect Part 1
The content of this post is now available as a free ebook from Smashwords, in a wide variety of formats here When …
Ditching the toxic “marriage maths mentality” Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Actually, I believe that everyone has the potential to …
Ditching the toxic “marriage maths mentality” Part 1
This post is about mathematical issues regarding finding a spouse, and why I believe people (and especially women) should have the courage …
Ladies – know your cycle!
Update: Tuesday 23 October 2012: This post is now available as a free ebook from Smashwords in a variety of ebook formats …
Obedience first, understanding later Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here If you got married as a Christian to …
Obedience first, understanding later
I’m going to start this post with what is now a customary apology for not having posted here for what is now …
Apology to a university colleague
This is a long overdue apology to someone I was at university with: [youtube]http://youtu.be/ZQmZvY_0yco[/youtube]
Musings on “No matter what”, and bringing the best out of your spouse
I think it would probably be most honest of me to admit that a big reason why I am almost insisting to …
My dream Valentine’s Day!
Well anyone who has been following this blog at all will know that I have not posted here for a while. The …
A little bit of “So There!”
The idea for this article post occurred to me last week even as I was writing out my previous post, and it …
Would it be OK…?
After the seriousness of the last few blog posts, this one is quite light-hearted. However, I think that this is one that …
Overview of Marriage Continued
OK, this is an addition that I’ve been meaning to post since I wrote the last post – overview of marriage. And …
Overview of Marriage Part 4
This is the fourth part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here The third is available …
Overview of Marriage Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here So anyway, finally, a …
Overview of Marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I also think that it is so powerful to …
Overview of marriage Part 1
Well this week, I had planned to write a blog post that was titled “Just because he loves you does not mean …
Just because he marries you…
OK last week, we looked at the Proverb of the Milk and the Cow, which encourages ladies to insist on the highest …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here This then is the …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here So what difference then do you think that marriage …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 1
This post is now available here as a free ebook in a full variety of ebook formats. Today I am going to …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 3
This is the third part to this post. Part 1 is available here Part 2 is available here So you’d think that …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here So what exactly about him was it? Honestly, to …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 1
In which Tosin… I am very conscious of the fact that I might give the impression that I am perfect, or that I …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here More waiting: So the Wait for me can be …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 1
This post comes to you courtesy of a question asked by a certain sibling of mine – about addressing “the Wait”. Before …
Putting the Kingdom first
Well, I’ve literally just completed a post on my Bible blog about how God’s highest priority for the world is its salvation, …
Re – more on when the relationship starts
Answer to a question from a Facebook friend: “What do you think differentiates two people who are going out from ordinary friendships?” …
Your Wedding day is NOT your marriage! (Sweetie!)
This is a blog post especially for the ladies out there! Actually, you know what? I think weddings SHOULD be celebrated elaborately, …
When does the relationship start?
Obviously, as Christians, certain parts of your relationship can (ok, should) ONLY start after you get married – like sex, and all …
