Soft Life Dreams
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Things that you take for granted about your life, which might secretly be triggering other people [5 min read]
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From my experience of life thus far, there are some prominent things about my life which I’m quite proud of actually, and which have also triggered other people.
Links now working again! [1 min read]
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I have now conducted a site wide “search and replace”, and I hope it is true that all links are now working again.
True Story: Chanel’s House and Chanel Boateng: Surviving Marriage to a Nigerian ‘Pastor’.. Our Wife: (My Story)- Part 1.. [3 min read]
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Response to: Surviving Marriage to a Nigerian ‘Pastor’.. Our Wife: (My Story)- Part 1..
Apologies for broken links! [2 min read]
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I must apologise to anyone who has been encountering broken links on this website over the last few months.
Yeah, I’m finally calling it: I simply don’t believe in romantic “love” like that! [17 min read]
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A better title for this post would be “Why it is dangerous to lead with love and romance in a relationship even if like me that is what you are looking for”.
Being happily reminded, once again, of just how little I know! [5 min read]
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The point of this post is [to discuss the fact] that writing this blog sometimes deceives me into thinking I know a lot about relationships…
Land of the silver birch….Rediscovering parts of me that I have buried [16 min read]
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The minor scale that it is written in and the lyrics just speak to me of nostalgia, or memory, of love for a place, of the natural rhythms of life.
March 2026 reminder: Yep, I still want this! [1 min read]
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This is a little note just in case Mr Eventual Huggie-Wuggie is reading this:
Yeah, I definitely want this!
Happy Valentine’s Day…for anyone celebrating! [6 min read]
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The things represented by Valentine’s Day, the values it represents or speaks to, the feelings it acknowledges, encourages or speaks to, do not intersect with my own relationship hopes or yearnings *at all*.
Still talking about YouTube Afro-Korean dramas [17 min read]
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I don’t think that these videos can truly give me an accurate representation of reality, but they can tell me perhaps what people think about love, or they can give me a romanticised idea of love.
AI, Afro-Korean Youtube romances, and the interplay between love and sex [15 min read]
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I have previously stated on this blog that I watch lots of YouTube videos. Just now, my brain craves constant stimulation or cheap dopamine so I often just keep scrolling from vid to vid.
Looking to see the reality behind the effort [16 min read]
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This entire blog deals with just how easy it is to marry a poor choice of husband, and this post specifically.
New Thoughts subblog now closed [1 min read]
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New Thoughts Sub blog now closed
New blog address [1 min read]
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Please note, if you visit this blog a lot, you might need to clear your browser cache specifically for this domain name "https://hugwug.tosinsbibleblog.com/"
Pretension and lies… [6 min read]
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In the world of the rich… many places or establishments charge a huge premium for what, ultimately, is often *exactly the same* as is available at far more modest prices…often exactly the same brands, from the same bottles.
Well hello again! [9 min read]
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[After a certain experience where someone was thrown into my space for a while], I’m honestly not exaggerating when I tell you that I am grateful to still be alive to write this post…
A critique of Evangelical (Calvinistic) faith [9 min read]
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This is a critique of everything flawed I’ve noticed or experienced about Calvinistic faith, demonstrating that it is not a sincere expression of Biblical faith. Shrug. Sorry not sorry.
Remembering that the God for feminists is also the God of anti-feminists… [18 min read]
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If people are pressurising you that you need to get married at all costs, please know that this is not from the Bible. Please do not merely take my own word for it, but check out the Bible for yourself.
Lack of images in blog posts…[1 min read]
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Well I’ve finally got an excuse for not putting images on my blog posts…
Sunday 27th July 2025: Introducing “Joyrotica”?
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This was supposed to be a bold post about what growing up in my house we used to call S. E. X but in the cold light of day I am not feeling quite so bold!
Sunday 4th May 2025: Important ideas I have come across [10 min read]
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Now here is the thing…it might be obvious to many others as it definitely is obvious to me that you will simply never find someone with whom you are 100% compatible.
Public Service Announcement: A single woman does not strictly “need” a man’s leadership [12 min read]
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So because God has granted leadership in marriage to men, does that then mean that every woman then needs a man to lead her? No, no it doesn’t.
Dealing with my own worst red flags: disdain [4 min read]
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I have got a very, very ugly aspect of my character which I am mortified about, namely this: I despise people so easily.
Society needs women to make poor choices [11 min read]
Image from Pixabay [Edits to add: – Just like the economy needs some people to make poor spending choices to flourish …
Hello again! Still madly “in like” after all these years! [6 min read]
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To me, this video shows a couple who are still genuinely excited about one another, even after 25 years of marriage.
15+ years later, finally working out how to organise this blog…
Image from Pixabay [Edit: On rereading this post to add images on 20th December 2025, I realise that I did not actually …
Finally back on this blog: From “Avoid avoid avoid” to “Go go go!”: a holy, funny, passionate love story
Wow, it has been so incredibly long since I last wrote a post on this blog. Not because my fervour for these …
10th August – thank you for your prayers!
Man, of late I have been busy! Today I thought I might get an early night (ie, going to bed before 2 …
17 July 2024, lots of thoughts!
17 July 2024, lots of thoughts! This blog post is an attempt both to express my thoughts and to get them straight …
Super-spontaneous post: Finally being honest with this blog, also I need to get serious about YouTube vids!
So in this post I am going to finally be fully honest. Actually, you know what? I have always been honest on …
Super-spontaneous post: YouTube video about regrets on buying homes
So… I’ve been doing quite a lot of doomscrolling on YouTube in the last few months, with a special focus on the …
Not another late night post!
Yes, this would be another of those late night posts. However, I am going to be good and instead just tap out …
Romance Writings Subblog
As of today 29 May 2024 the “Romance Writings” subblog is being discontinued. History’s Royal Highnesses: Cinderella is now available on a …
Blog posts to write 17 May 2024
Posts that I have been thinking of writing, hope to get to soon: -False flag Christians: insincere but loud Christians, in essence …
Updated 17 May 24: ONGOING: Talking about dermatillomania and hyperpigmentation
*****Post originally published 24 April 2024***** ***** 17th May 2024, video taken 17th May 2024 So it occurred to me to not …
Getting analytical about the real reason I’ve struggled with friendships…
…and realising that that also flows over into why I struggle to find a husband. For the first time ever it occurs …
What if you like someone…but are not sure about their culture?
This is hopefully going to be a very quick post, because, once again, I am writing this late into the night – …
Reminder whatever you want (in marriage)…
This is hopefully going to be a super quick post because I’ve got to get out of the house ASAP! It suddenly …
Long time no post, awkwardness, community, middle-class churches, labour exploitation versus financial success
I’m so conscious that I have not posted for a few weeks now. I must confess that I am procrastinating a little! …
Sat 02 March 2024 – video
As I add this video, it occurs to me that I have not written an actual post for a while. Such is …
Video: Tuesday 20 Feb
Well I have encountered a significant technical glitch this week, meaning that this week's video is not truly a video but is …
Spontaneous Sunday (Monday) post, no video yet :(
So today I have as yet not been able to create my Sunday video, for quite good reasons. However, something occurred to …
Happy Belated Valentine’s Day!
I hope that everyone celebrating had a lovely day yesterday. ❤️❤️❤️
Sunday 11 Feb 2023 (Mon 12th Feb)
I make the point in the vid that I have been deliberately toning myself down to try to fit in to a …
Sunday 4th Feb 2024 – Video
Well I shot this video a few hours ago, and edited it. Since then however I have been busy with other work …
Goodbye to this subblog, back to the main blog!
Dear readers, I would like to let you all know that I will no longer be writing on this subblog. From henceforth …
Video update: Sunday 28 January 2024
This update talks about a few blog post ideas that have been on my mind.