Getting analytical about the real reason I’ve struggled with friendships…
…and realising that that also flows over into why I struggle to find a husband. For the first time ever it occurs …
Stonking New Year’s prayer for myself
So I plan to share here a no-holds-barred prayer for myself that unapologetically asks God for absolutely everything maritally, every last thing …
Trying not to say “the D word”…
A few provisos before I launch into this post proper. This post is quite spontaneous, so please forgive me if it lacks …
Half-married already! AND Expecting too much?
Post 1: Half-married already! Well after just writing this last post in which I desperately tried not to actually say anything of …
Updated 22nd July: The ever-growing, but definitive list of Essential Criteria for my husband
Addlog: ********** 22 July 2018 Someone who will pull his own weight domestically, without needing to be asked, begged or nagged ********** …
In defence of essential criteria lists
Well yesterday I read an article which argues that it is unrealistic and impractical to have lists of essential criteria for your …
My name is Tosin and…(Random Ramblings)
(Actually most much of the time these days my name is not Tosin – but that is a different story!) So… my …
Sexual Purity as a Feminist choice
Well I recently came across a certain article. In it, the writer described how she had taken a vow of sexual purity …
Dear Lord, please grant me patience!
Or, Why do I have such acute emotional needs?! So I was sitting there just minutes ago, just casually and happily minding …
And so…
And so, I finally started writing out the post for “my determination for myself as a wife.” But guess what?! It is …
The “Looking Good” Thing
So here is an idea that I’ve been wanting to write about for a few months now. This idea is a little …
Tosin’s List Part 2: The Essential Characteristics
This is the second part to this post. Part 1: Why the List: Available here Part 2: The Essential Characteristics: THIS POST …
The Character Characteristics
Well last night I wrote and published quite an angry post about unexciting aspects of male character that I would find hard …
The Characteristics aka Angry Ranting Post!
These are a few of the characteristics that I would love to find in a husband. However, these are also the characteristics …
Dear Mr Huggie-Wuggie: I wanna be your best friend!
Well following my little love story about best friends I’ve been dreaming a lot about a marriage where my husband and I …
Let’s talk about…masturbation!
Ha ha ha, only joking, let’s not!Instead, please check out this incredible video on the subject from this year’s Rhetoric, by a …
Dear Mr Huggie-Wuggie… Talking about shyness
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who might struggle with shyness. It might also be relevant for people who …
Dirty Girl Ministries: Support for Pornography and sexual addiction habits in women
I just came across this site that is dedicated to supporting women who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. Dirty Girl Ministries
Sexual Purity – Homosexuality
For reasons that regular readers of this blog will probably not be able to eventually escape reading about, (again and again and …
PS Fat Hints – That song…!
How could I have forgotten this in my super long post?! Yeah, that song!!!! That beautiful and incredible song! Just wow. I …
Simply Anywhere!
This is the second entry in my “Fat Hints” category, and thankfully it is a lot shorter than the first one: I …
Fat Hints!
I think I’m actually going to dedicate a category here on this blog to big fat hints, starting with this post! I’ve …
Just in case you’re not the one praying (after all!)
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This is such a personal post – ha ha ha! Possibly an example (yet another one!) of how to be …
People who have changed my life: My Husband!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** As this is an open letter to my husband, it is quite a personal post about my life, so it …
Dear Lord, please let it be him!
Dear Lord, If there really is someone out there praying for me; investing his time, effort and determination to make a deeply …
Sexual Purity: More Thoughts
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** Once again this post concerns general sexual purity, so I believe that it is generally useful for everyone no matter …
Talking about pornography and sexual fantasies
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This is not about any particular relationship stage but is written to encourage sexual purity at any stage. ******************************************* Guilt …
Married to Myself?
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post will hopefully challenge people to imagine what it would be like to be married to them, so I …
Acting like an idiot!
Well I’ve just written out a blog post just to try to express my thoughts regarding this “awkward thing”. To be honest, …
Awkward!
Wow, as I sit here typing at this post, I am giggling away, for a number of reasons. A significant reason is …
Funto Ojumu on Sexuality
Please check out this video of one of my relatives discussing her views on sexuality! [youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_BESQP_0W8[/youtube]
Why we need each other!
Well I recently wrote a post where I thanked an unknown someone for praying for me. I’ve been meaning to write a …
Further thoughts about Submission
I think it is fair to say that the idea of wifely submission has been one of my biggest hang-ups about marriage …
OBSESSED!!!! And rightly so! And about time!!!!! And *proud* of it!!!!!
OK, I’ll admit it. I have just raced through writing my blog post on my other blog so that I could finally …
Lord, please give me a Prayer Warrior!
Well a few things have happened recently. The conclusion I have come to is that I seriously have to find me a …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Imagine for a minute that your chosen partner is …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 1
In this post, I am going to make quite a bold claim. I was thinking about this vaguely a few weeks ago. …
The difference between love and lust Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. I guess though there is also the very important …
The difference between love and lust Part 1
I came across an article with this same title a few weeks ago. It was also from a Christian writer. I had …
Free Ebook: Is There Only One? Knowing the Will of God in Marriage
This is an ebook of an existing post here on Finding Mr Huggie Wuggie. It is available as a free ebook in …
Free Ebook: Legitimate Self-Concern Versus Unconditional Love In Marriage
I have personally struggled greatly with the tension between considering my own needs in marriage, and offering unconditional love to my husband …
Free E-Book: Ladies, know your CYCLE!
An ebook giving advice to ladies about being aware of the potential impact of hormones to arouse certain romantic thoughts or feelings. …
Free E-Book: The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow
An ebook appealing especially to Christian ladies to insist on the highest standards of sexual purity within their relationships. It is available …
My dreams of my spouse… versus God’s dream for my spouse Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Actually, with my big dreams about life etc (and …
My dreams of my spouse… versus God’s dream for my spouse Part 1
A funny postscript to last week’s post: Someone asked me whether my prayers had worked yet! While yes, I believe my prayers …
Excellent wife material? Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. I do not think that there is anything wrong …
Excellent wife material? Part 1
I’m going to apologise in advance as this post is largely about myself, so it might have limited relevance to other people! …
A real man versus Mr Wonderful Dream
This is an idea that in a way flows quite smoothly on from the post of love versus infatuation which I wrote …
Tosin’s Guy Rules
This is a post that I’ve been thinking of writing for a while. However, even though this is a blog that gets …
Would it be OK…?
After the seriousness of the last few blog posts, this one is quite light-hearted. However, I think that this is one that …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here This then is the …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here So what difference then do you think that marriage …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 1
This post is now available here as a free ebook in a full variety of ebook formats. Today I am going to …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 3
This is the third part to this post. Part 1 is available here Part 2 is available here So you’d think that …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here So what exactly about him was it? Honestly, to …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 1
In which Tosin… I am very conscious of the fact that I might give the impression that I am perfect, or that I …
Friendship Criteria
Well, after writing a blog post proclaiming that I was not going to write just about myself and my expectations in marriage …
Enough about me!
Well recently I was chatting to my sisters and for some reason, which I now forget, we started talking about a certain …
Still more…
Today, I would like to add a couple of further characteristics that I forgot to add to my blog post last week. …
Further Characteristics Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here *My husband has to aspire to be greater than …
Further characteristics for my husband Part 1
Well I have a little confession – that is that I am still writing out the subdivisions of the first essential characteristic …
Characteristic 1.4
Next Characteristic – Christlike character!
Characteristic 1.3 – all sold out!
OK, this is now the third subdivision in my first characteristic for my husband. This is that he has to be completely …
Characteristic 1.2 – No Matter What!
OK, the second subdivision in the First essential Characteristic for my husband is a commitment to remain committed to and deeply rooted …
Characteristic 1.1 – Knowing God
After defining the different parts of the first characteristic (that I will look for in a husband) over the last 2 weeks, …
Characteristic 1 Continued – all for Jesus!
Well last week I started expressing the essential characteristics that I am looking for in my husband. I started off with the …
First Characteristic – All for Jesus!
OK, well in recent weeks I have spoken about necessary criteria for my marriage and the interaction between me and any potential …
Criterion no 3 – Communication
Well I’m only referring to this criterion as no 3 to be orderly/methodical, as over the course of the week I have …
Criterion No 2 – Friendship
OK, now for the second criterion on the list of essential criteria for my husband – perhaps in this case, it would …
Criterion No 1…! ;)
I have just made a very drastic reworking to this criterion. Before reading on to Criterion No 1, please check out this …
Is there only one? Or knowing the will of God in marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I just cannot accept these thoughts. It makes more …
Is there only one? Or knowing the will of God in marriage Part 1
OK, this is a post that I have been thinking about for quite a while. I have found myself getting into discussions …
Please don’t do this! ;)
This is a letter not to my future husband, but rather to my holy, excellent single Christian brothers. Dear Brother, if you …
Happy Valentine’s Day!
This is the joke open letter that I posted on my Facebook Status on Valentine’s Day this year, and it is from …
Joshua Harris – I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Joshua Harris – I Kissed Dating Goodbye Many of my thoughts on relationships which could potentially lead to marriage and also my …
