What if you like someone…but are not sure about their culture?
This is hopefully going to be a very quick post, because, once again, I am writing this late into the night – …
Long time no post, awkwardness, community, middle-class churches, labour exploitation versus financial success
I’m so conscious that I have not posted for a few weeks now. I must confess that I am procrastinating a little! …
Spontaneous Sunday (Monday) post, no video yet :(
So today I have as yet not been able to create my Sunday video, for quite good reasons. However, something occurred to …
25 January 2024 Spontaneous video
To correct something I said within the video: yes I have been writing down my blog post ideas pretty much since I …
A sexist man’s dilemma…
This is one of my spontaneous posts, and it is one of those posts that may well disappear from this blog once …
OK, I know I said “coming soon”, and I do mean that, but…
OK, I know I said “coming soon”, and I do mean that, but… [Perhaps this is completely irrelevant to most people, but …
Christmas Postings!
Well today has been Christmas Day 2018, and I have been somewhat determined to post a post today! But somehow the hours …
Horror Stories for Halloween 4: More Kings and Queens
Here are a few more articles about potential horror stories in relationships. From Trophy wives to toxic wives: This article talks about …
Horror Stories for Halloween 3: The Unexpected Proposal
Yes, I know that Halloween is well and truly over, but the horror within relationships continues! Thankfully the issue discussed in this …
Horror Stories for Halloween 2a: Kings and their Queens
So this is a Halloween Relationship Horror story with a difference: What if the man you married always treated you perfectly, like …
Horror Stories for Halloween No 1: Hell
This is really not what I had in mind when I was talking about Horror Stories for Halloween. However, I think that …
Horror Stories for Halloween – Introduction
Well if I was to start talking about Halloween, and I was to start talking about my faith, perhaps some people would …
Well today…or the power of praying
Well today has been a seriously “interesting” day, and not in a good way. This is an old-fashioned term, but I’ve definitely …
Overcoming my dermatillomania (please Lord!)
So today I would like to talk about something that to be honest, I would much rather not have to admit to. …
Statistically speaking…
So today, I was reading an article about cognitive biases. These are the errors of logic, judgement or reasoning which we are …
So I read some posts today!
PREAMBLE Well today I was reading some stories online about what people have experienced in their relationships. On one hand, these were …
“Doing the chasing”, versus mental and emotional health
I’ve been thinking a lot about mental health recently, both within and outside the topic of relationships. Thankfully God has blessed me …
But what do we have in common?!
I was just thinking about this concept while sitting on public transport a few hours ago, and these are the thoughts that …
Sorry for the recent silence!
Sorry for the recent silence on this blog everyone! I’ve faced a few acute challenges in terms of being busy, and over …
Overcoming loneliness, a possible solution (please Lord!)
This is quite a spontaneous post. Apologies if it does not really make sense, I am going to have to reflect on …
To blog or not to blog?!
Well I had hoped and confidently expected that I would be able to write a post over this bank holiday weekend. You …
Overcoming Loneliness – 2nd Edit
I really should be fast asleep just now. In fact, I find myself in exactly the same circumstance I was in earlier …
Things I need to work on: Practising Kindness
This is something I have been thinking of for ages! Like years and years and years – since before I wrote *that* …
Happy 7th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
Yep, it’s been seven good years of writing this blog! And here I am as single as ever! I’m trying to cast …
Huggie-Wuggie: this time next year…
So here we are at the beginning of yet another new year… I can’t help wondering what this new year might bring …
When faith dies
Let me start off by reassuring any readers that no, my faith has not died. And by the grace of God it …
What’s waiting for you at the end of your tether?
Quick answer: whatever you have prepared, so prepare well. This blog is not really the place for this particular post. However I …
Like father, like daughter!
Oh man, I just have to share with you verbatim what my Dad just said! Talking about the tragedy of the Texas …
Let’s talk about…power dynamics in relationships!
or, Why can’t you and I both be powerful?! Actually, before I launch into the post proper I have to confess that …
Deep conditioning your marriage
I’ve recently been getting into looking after my natural afro hair. But I’m trying to find a quick, easy, inexpensive way of …
How do you know he is not going to beat you?!
Related in a way to the previous question, “How do you know he is not going to be unfaithful?”… This really is …
How do you know he’s not going to be unfaithful..?
Someone once asked me how I knew that my husband was not going to be unfaithful. And I just stared! It is …
The Lie of Capitalism
I know what you might be thinking: “Tosin, what is a post about Capitalism doing on your Huggie-Wuggie blog?! Have you possibly …
Internet Dating: Postscript
I initially published this post back in 2012, then I unpublished it, for reasons which I have now completely forgotten… ————————————————————– A …
Hearts and Character
Well I have just written this post on my Bible blog, but I was feeling so riled and worked up about this …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Crunching the numbers
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about this since I published my earlier “let’s talk about money” posts: it’s all very well …
Why it is so hard to find an outstanding spouse: now edited
This post has been majorly revised, the new version is available here: https://blog.huggie-wuggie.com/editing-why-it-is-so-hard-to-find-an-outstanding-spouse/ I initially drafted out this post back in March …
Cringey Posts
I was recently reading/giggling through a certain post here, and thinking, for the hundredth time, just how cringey this post is! And …
Let’s talk about money baby! Accounting – further holes: large gifts
I’ve recently thought of a very significant further hole in the idea of spouses having individual accounts as well as communal family …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Accounting for our differences
In addition to the out and out bad character which I looked at in the other part to this post, these are some …
Running the race of Character
If you were asked to spontaneously run a race or obstacle course without any warning at all, then your achievement in the …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Character issues
Thinking about money, on one hand I can be extremely romantic! I will say about my husband: “Money doesn’t matter!” That is, …
Married versus single relationships blogger – which is better?!
I’ve just spent a few hours reading through another website; isn’t it funny how so many of us feel qualified to give …
Happy 6th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
This post is *so* long overdue! This blog turned six years old back in March! So yes, it has been six years! 6 …
My long-lasting relationships
Well after I had read the post referred to in my own previous post here on this blog, it got me thinking …
That thing when… (external post)
It has been so long since I last posted that I was honestly scared to look at the date of my last …
More thoughts on marital prayers
I’ve written so many posts here about how to pray for a marriage. I guess it would make sense for me to …
Rethinking this two year thing!
Well you know this weekend I could so have written two substantial Huggie-Wuggie posts – at least! But you know what I …
Born to submit to you (my darling)!
Well I don’t think that it is any secret that the Biblical theory of automatic submission from a wife to her husband …
How marriage is both conditional and unconditional
Here’s the thing: I believe that to a certain extent marriage has to be conditional. Unconditional love is one of absolutely the …
No Huggie-Wuggie Post today – sorry! :) :)
Well it’s been a little while since I wrote an article here on Huggie-Wuggie. This weekend I’ve been extremely keen to write …
A little bit of humility…
I’d like to apologise to anyone who has been reading this blog as I have not exactly been the epitome of humility …
Further Essential Characteristics 16 July 2016
TEMPORARY POST: To September 30 2016 This post expands the post “Essential Characteristics for my husband“ ———————————————————– A few further thoughts I …
Coming soon: Tosin’s List: My determination for myself as a wife
I want to make it clear that I know that I really, really, have to write a post about my own determination …
The Primacy of Friendship OR putting friendship first
This is an idea that has only really crystallised in my mind today. On this blog I have spoken so many times …
Tosin’s List! Part One – Why the List!
Edit: 2nd July 2016 Now that I’ve had a chance to think about this a bit more, I think that this post …
My biggest fear…just now!
Before launching into “my biggest fear”, a little admission. A few days ago I sat down and tried to write a blog post …
Aaaaaaand…back to the real world!
Well yesterday I published quite an excited post about how amazing everything is, and my beautiful dreams of a beautiful marriage, and …
Happy 5th Birthday to Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
So the fifth anniversary of this blog occurred all the way back in March! That’s five years of thinking about marriage, and …
Taking Marital Advice from a single woman?!
I recently came across a Facebook post about marriage. You know, one of those facebook posts giving all sorts of helpful encouraging …
Yet another “Haven’t posted for so long!” post! – Or, passionately in friendship
Well after what seems like months of not quite getting around to writing a post, I am in exactly that kind of …
A story that needs to be told…
Firstly, I really want to apologise if it seems that I have been blowing my own trumpet so much on this blog. …
Communication Meltdown!
Recently I found myself down one of those internet article rabbit holes, where I will almost compulsively start reading one article after another, …
Why it is so hard [for me] to find an outstanding spouse!
A little waffly preambleOh wow! I have not published any posts to this blog for months and months! In terms of actual …
PS – Talking about Adultery!
I’ve been reflecting on the post I recently wrote about adultery. I’m so sorry if I was graceless in my post. There …
Goodbye RSS!
After many years and thousands of feeds I have decided to disable the RSS feeds function on this site. The chief reason …
Talking about…adultery!
A few weeks ago I came across the following article, about a famous author who left his wife for another woman. Daily …
Fulfilling his needs!
Well I’ve just written a post which was indirectly all about trying to communicate my needs to my husband – as usual! …
Apologies for confusing posts!
I’d like to apologise to anyone who finds my posts confusing! There are two big reasons why this might be (that currently …
Celebrating some amazing friends!
Despite being on this blog, this is a post that is purely about friendships, with people of either gender! So over the …
Let’s talk (again!) about doing the pursuing…
Apologies in advance: this is a particularly waffly post! It is a subject that I struggle to understand, so I have literally …
How to turn someone down
OK, now for the second part of this post: this is the matching part to the first post, how to ask someone …
How to ask someone out
There is now a matching post to this, “How to turn someone down” Well here I am, supposed to be working away. …
Ignoring my Huggie-Wuggie?!
Well today I’ve got to admit that I was in two minds about whether to write a post here or not. On …
Shyness, post script
As a postscript to my previous post, there were a few extra things that occurred to me later. I must admit that …
Let’s talk about…shyness!!!
So it’s that thing where I have not written a post for quite a while on my blog, and for some reason …
To rekindle your fire, try rekindling your friendship!
Well I have been thinking as always about relationships. I can’t quite remember how the following thought process happened in my mind, …
Blaming my parents for everything…
Disclaimer/Confession: I actually thought of this post a few days ago, while I was typing out my last post. However, as I …
Body, Soul and Spirit!
The ideas I hope to express in this post first occurred to me months and months ago. However, they were some of the …
In hot pursuit
This post is a development of ideas I have expressed before. However I first thought of it in this light last night …
Deserving you – Postscript (And…Headphones!)
Well there was a very important postscript that occurred to me right after I wrote the previous post, Deserving You. It was …
Deserving you
The slogan on this graphic reads:“Only God can give you the love you’re looking for, and only God can give you the …
Building a Foundation for your singleness
This is the second attempt at writing this post. My mind is like jelly right now, perhaps because I have been eating …
What true care truly looks like
Yeah, it has been a bit of a while since I last wrote a post on either of my blogs. On one …
Talking about the day to day!
Well you know how I said that I might be winding down activity on this blog? And I explained the reason why?! …
Can I tell you something?!
This is a message for…surprise surprise – a certain someone!Can I tell you something?! I hope that this is not completely over …
Ode to a Hoodie
You know how I recently said that I might be winding up activity on this blog? Well I simply could not leave …
Rethinking this blog….
Well I’ve got some news for anyone who might follow this blog…I’m thinking of stopping or reducing blog posts on this blog, …
…But I was outstanding!
This is one of those (many, many) blog posts that occurred to me in that dreamy hinterland between sleep and wakefulness, where …
Marriage as a performance art
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE**********As with last week’s post, this post will be most relevant within marriage itself. However, it will be most useful to …
External Link: Desiring God – “On My Wedding Day”
This beautiful post was shared by my sister on Facebook. I agree that it is a lovely idea for an engaged couple …
Deconstructing “I Love You”
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone who is at the point of exchanging declarations of love with someone else… ******************************************* …
Happy Resurrection Sunday 2015!
This post is to wish all readers of “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” a lovely Resurrection Sunday 2015. Hallelujah, Christ is risen indeed! …
Happy 4th Birthday to “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!”
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is not specific to any relationship status, other than my own! ******************************************* This post is celebrating four years …
The wrong platform!
I know that this is most likely the wrong platform to use. I’m also worried that I might be building myself up …
Big cause of awkwardness: Premature Emotional Intimacy
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who also struggles with awkwardness as I do. In terms of stages it …
Strands and Building Blocks
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to people who are considering whether to get married, for instance people who …
The Princess and the Prayer!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is really just about trying to find yet another creative way to thank the person who might have …
Quick Idea: 10 things I love about you!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this idea would be most helpful for people who are married ******************************************* This is really cute. I …
Sorry for the silence, thanks for your prayers!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This very brief post was written to reassure readers that I was fine, despite not posting on my blogs for …
Christian Romantic Fiction – The Heroes!
…And unto my second post of the evening that has in part been inspired by “Christian Romantic Fiction”. Just a quick observation. …
Church V Marriage part 2
You don’t genuinely care, about me, or God. You are just interested in adding some extra multicultural kudos to your prayerless gathering, …
How joining a church is like entering a marriage
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is relevant for anyone else who also goes to church, examining a few similarities between “church” and “a …
How to be truly beautiful: from the inside out
This is the final “December” post that was chosen in the poll of December posts to write. If anyone follows either of …
Anatomy of a Marriage made in Heaven
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to anyone who might be wishing to have a marriage made in heaven, …
Already desperately in love!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** If what I describe in this post is truly how many of us “fall in love”, then I think that …
How women make themselves cheap
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for women who are single and looking, encouraging them to insist on …
Dear Lord, please let it be him!
Dear Lord, If there really is someone out there praying for me; investing his time, effort and determination to make a deeply …
A Business-Minded Spouse as a Business Investment
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think this post is most relevant for people who are single and ambitious. It provides a new way of …
Sexual Purity: More Thoughts
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** Once again this post concerns general sexual purity, so I believe that it is generally useful for everyone no matter …
Marriage is not an “eat as much as you like” buffet!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is relevant to all relationship stages, but most useful before marriage to help get a …
Married to Myself?
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post will hopefully challenge people to imagine what it would be like to be married to them, so I …
November ideas that have occurred to me (to be voted on)
1. How to encourage someone to be the best they can be 2. I want to be so beautiful for you, my …
Welcome to the friendzone!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for people who are single and looking, struggling with feelings for one …
Sample Newsletter
Dear {field1}, I hope this week is going excellently for you! Lots of exciting things have been happening here at Huggie-Wuggie Central …
The interaction between personality and character
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is about evaluating someone‘s personality and character before getting romantically involved with them, so I’d say it is …
October posts to write – ideas that have occurred to me in October/ish
1. Married to myself: Woman in china, recent woman, etc WRITTEN 2. Welcome to the friendzone!WRITTEN 3. Relationship ambivalence – can’t remember …
Unhappily single?!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I’d say that this post is most relevant for people who are single, or who might be going out with …
Still Talking about Two Years!
This is a postscript that I have been meaning to add ever since I wrote the last post on “Two Years”. There, …
OK, what should I write about?!
This is a quick post asking for some reader input on the following issue: My biggest struggle with this blog is to …
Presenting myself to you in weakness
I would like to start this post with what is now becoming a customary thank you to whoever may be praying for …
Playing hard to get – further thoughts
This is a short addition to the existing thoughts I have already expressed about playing hard to get. One further reason why …
Further thoughts about two years…
Well I was thinking away about people in general, and remembering some issues I found myself having to shake my head. I …
Why people don’t listen
In this post I would like to offer a few thoughts on why … people don’t listen How women make themselves cheap …
Dear Mr Potential Huggie-Wuggie…About awkwardness and vulnerability
This post is directed towards any man who could potentially become my very own Mr Huggie-Wuggie, to explain myself and my possible …
So many ways to have a great marriage… And yet…
I was thinking recently over some of the thoughts that I have expressed here, and a few other ideas. And something that …
Where does true concern come from? And where does it go?
In this post I am going to address something that should really be central to this blog, but is not. That is, …
What if my husband won’t listen to my ideas?!
In this post, I would like to present to you something which has been my ongoing, quiet nightmare for a while. …
My Personal Values
Here I’ve tried to list down all my own personal values regarding dating and relationships. This page is likely to change a …
Moving back to London?! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here While I was in London, thankfully I did not …
Moving back to London?! Part 1
Well I recently celebrated another anniversary of my arrival here in this beautiful city. I love this city so much. However, from …
Struggling against an overactive imagination!
By the grace of God, God has blessed me with a very strong imagination. This is possibly the single biggest gift that …
Joy and Sadness!!!
This is a spontaneous blog post that just needs to be written right now! I am writing this blog post from a …
The difference between “friendly” and “friendship”
This post builds a little on last week’s post, about what friendship is “really”. This new post seeks to examine the subject …
What is friendship really? Part 2
After writing last week’s post on “What is Friendship?” I’ve been thinking a little more about the subject. What occurred to me …
What is friendship?
I must admit that it is somewhat embarrassing for me to have to write this post. After all, this concerns something that …
Thank you for your prayers – Again!
I’ve just published this post on my other blog. However, for some reason, I feel compelled to post it here too! ———————————————————— …
What it means to be attractive Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I used to beat myself up with these …
What it means to be attractive Part 1
(Only because I could not bring myself to call this post “What it means to be hot!”) After I posted last week’s …
Love is sincerely not about the other person! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. This post is all about contradictions. Having said that …
Love is sincerely not about the other person! Part 1
Let me firstly apologise for not blogging here for a few weeks. I’ve been otherwise occupied! During that time, my mind has …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here Even if you are …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Imagine for a minute that your chosen partner is …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 1
In this post, I am going to make quite a bold claim. I was thinking about this vaguely a few weeks ago. …
How do I know if he’s my friend?! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here In our days, we have the benefits of modern …
All about two years Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. However, if you had simply allowed yourself to get …
All about two years Part 1
In this blog post I would like to write about my personal conviction regarding “the two year thing”. For people who do …
Mrs Huggie-Wuggie – or having a high huggie-wuggie quotient Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Unattractive Christians As I write this, it occurs to …
Being Mrs Huggie-Wuggie – or having a high huggie-wuggie quotient Part 1
Well today I had been planning to write a post about my personal conviction about the power in getting to know someone …
“…but he’s not a Christian!”
As I start typing this it is already past midnight, and we are now technically into Monday, where usually I would type …
Revised relationship schedule Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here POTENTIAL PROBLEMS: This is possibly the biggest potential problem …
Revised relationship schedule Part 1
Happy New Year to all readers of this blog! I’m kinda hoping to keep to a more systematic schedule myself for writing …
A moment of sobriety…
Well my previous post, published just a short while ago, was supposed to be the last post on this blog for this …
To be honest… Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here And then naturally, I also need that he should …
To be honest… Part 1
To be honest, as I write this post, I have to admit that I don’t have a general destination in mind or …
Look younger than I am…
OK – erm – how to start this?! Can I ask you all a question: how old exactly do I look?! Because …
Building a heavy-duty marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here Following on from this, here are a few …
Building a heavy-duty marriage – Part 1
Well today (that is, when I first wrote out this post) I was going to publish a post about building a heavy-duty …
What everyone else knows…Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here If you have identified an issue in your spouse, …
What everyone else knows… Part 1
This week I have been sifting through a number of Huggie-Wuggie posts. While doing that, a few thoughts occurred to me. The …
What if my needs change?
Well I’ve been thinking away about these topics as usual, and thinking about my favourite things…. However a thought that has been …
Excellent husband needed, not just wanted! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Well when the idea for last week’s post first …
Excellent husband needed, not just wanted! Part 1
OK, so within the week I found myself in a position of crying out to God in frustration about a number of …
Asking the wrong questions?
Well I’ve logged on for the purpose of writing an altogether different post, which I shall hopefully also write after this one. …
Avoiding Mr Perfect
This is a blog post which might seem to say the opposite of what I usually say. However, by the grace of …
Rethinking “lost marriage years”
(UPDATE 28th July 2014 This post was split off from an earlier existing post.) Something that strikes me now as it has …
Two threats to marital love
Over the course of the week, I have been thinking away about marriage, as always. For anyone who follows this blog, you …
Unconditional love versus fear, anger and resentment
I have been thinking a lot about unconditional love recently. After starting off here on this blog with a number of posts, …
Happy Fathers’ Day, from Miss Greedy-Indeedy
Yes, people, in case you have not already realised, let me make it clear that I am Miss Greedy-Indeedy! And this is …
My dreams of my spouse… versus God’s dream for my spouse Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Actually, with my big dreams about life etc (and …
My dreams of my spouse… versus God’s dream for my spouse Part 1
A funny postscript to last week’s post: Someone asked me whether my prayers had worked yet! While yes, I believe my prayers …
How to pray to receive a spouse – further thoughts
I’ve previously written a post about how to pray for a spouse. This post here builds on that previous post. This new …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The other parts are available here: Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 2
This is the second part to an article posted last week Part 3 of this article is available here The three parts …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 1
The three parts of this post have now been compiled into a single free ebook, available in a wide variety of formats. …
The disadvantage of youth?
After all the thoughts that have occurred to me on the subject of love, relationships and marriage, I was recently reflecting on …
Excellent wife material? Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here. I do not think that there is anything wrong …
Excellent wife material? Part 1
I’m going to apologise in advance as this post is largely about myself, so it might have limited relevance to other people! …
Some thoughts on Sexual Temptation Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here This is all the more true, of course, if …
Some thoughts on Sexual Temptation Part 1
OK, this is a bit of a big post title. Before you read this post, if you are a Christian, I STRONGLY …
The meaning of “For better, for worse”
This is a post that expands an issue that I lightly touched on last week: the meaning of “For better or for …
Positivity!
I’m currently struggling to decide whether many of my recent blog posts here have been overwhelmingly negative. If you have been reading …
Are you better off married….or single? Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here When we are dreaming happily about marriage in general …
Are you better off married….or single? Part 1
Let me start off by quickly saying that if I could choose between having a brilliant marriage and having a brilliant life …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 4
This is the fourth part of this post. The first is available here The second is available here The third is available …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 3
This is the third part of this post. The first is available here The second is available here All parts of this …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 2
This is the second part of this post,the first is available here All parts of this blog post are now available here …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 1
All parts of this post are now available together as a single free ebook in a full variety of ebook formats here …
Happy Mothers’ Day!
Wishing Happy Mothers’ Day to all the mothers, grandmothers, aunties, family friends, sisters and other ladies who have helped shaped us into …
The difference between love and infatuation
Well Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! In honour of Valentine’s day I am going to write today on a subject that is very …
Thoughts about Communication
Here are some thoughts that I have been thinking about communication. I used to think that communication would be comparatively easy within …
Communication Issues – Continued
Well after writing last week’s post on communication, I was reflecting a bit and thinking that there might be lots more reasons …
Merry Christmas from Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie!
Ah, so Mr Huggie-Wuggie, it seems as if you have managed to elude my grasp for this year also?! Thank you to …
Communication Issues are often Character Issues, Trust Issues
I’ve been thinking a lot about “communication” in marriage. Various wise and knowledgeable people refer to it as the lifeblood in any …
I don’t love you any more!
I sometimes wonder why it is in the midst of hard times that people break up. I always think that that is …
My attitude to Internet Dating
This is a blog post that I’ve been thinking about writing for a long time. A number of people have advised me …
How to pray to receive a spouse – one way
[This post contains quite a long preamble – so here is a link to jump straight to the actual content of how …
Everybody changes!
Last week I considered the subject of how to be confident, even from before marriage, that a future spouse will keep getting better …
The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Overtaking? Sometimes, if someone is aggressively pursuing excellence, even …
The difference between no-one’s perfect…and no-one’s perfect Part 1
The content of this post is now available as a free ebook from Smashwords, in a wide variety of formats here When …
Ditching the toxic “marriage maths mentality” Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Actually, I believe that everyone has the potential to …
Ditching the toxic “marriage maths mentality” Part 1
This post is about mathematical issues regarding finding a spouse, and why I believe people (and especially women) should have the courage …
Ladies – know your cycle!
Update: Tuesday 23 October 2012: This post is now available as a free ebook from Smashwords in a variety of ebook formats …
Obedience first, understanding later Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here If you got married as a Christian to …
Obedience first, understanding later
I’m going to start this post with what is now a customary apology for not having posted here for what is now …
Musings on “No matter what”, and bringing the best out of your spouse
I think it would probably be most honest of me to admit that a big reason why I am almost insisting to …
My dream Valentine’s Day!
Well anyone who has been following this blog at all will know that I have not posted here for a while. The …
Overview of Marriage Continued
OK, this is an addition that I’ve been meaning to post since I wrote the last post – overview of marriage. And …
Overview of Marriage Part 4
This is the fourth part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here The third is available …
Overview of Marriage Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here So anyway, finally, a …
Overview of Marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I also think that it is so powerful to …
Overview of marriage Part 1
Well this week, I had planned to write a blog post that was titled “Just because he loves you does not mean …
Just because he marries you…
OK last week, we looked at the Proverb of the Milk and the Cow, which encourages ladies to insist on the highest …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 3
This is the third part to this post. Part 1 is available here Part 2 is available here So you’d think that …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here So what exactly about him was it? Honestly, to …
When Tosin met….or when Tosin went crazy! ;) Part 1
In which Tosin… I am very conscious of the fact that I might give the impression that I am perfect, or that I …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here More waiting: So the Wait for me can be …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 1
This post comes to you courtesy of a question asked by a certain sibling of mine – about addressing “the Wait”. Before …
Putting the Kingdom first
Well, I’ve literally just completed a post on my Bible blog about how God’s highest priority for the world is its salvation, …
Re – more on when the relationship starts
Answer to a question from a Facebook friend: “What do you think differentiates two people who are going out from ordinary friendships?” …
Your Wedding day is NOT your marriage! (Sweetie!)
This is a blog post especially for the ladies out there! Actually, you know what? I think weddings SHOULD be celebrated elaborately, …
This blog and you!
Or, who this blog is for. Firstly, thank you for reading this blog! I am grateful and honoured to anyone who is …
Thank you for your prayers!
OK, before I write the characteristic for this week, I would like to take some time to thank the person who has …
Why I don’t care about your money – Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here It annoys me when someone drives up in a …
Why I don’t care about your money – Part 1
This is a wall post I recently borrowed from a Facebook friend to post on my own Facebook wall: “To all the …
Very drastic reworking! (Of Criterion No1)
Well, the truth is that I continue to think about my blog posts after I have written them, and I mentally edit …
As Christ loved the church…
Ephesians 5v25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her….” OK, so last week …
Positive Expectations!
OK, once again I’ve been assessing my own thoughts about marriage. I’m very aware that my thoughts and my writings have been …
What if I never get married? – a postscript
Thank you to everyone who has submitted a comment on my previous blog post, “What if I never get married?” On thinking …
What if I never get married?
This post concerns a very interesting question, one I have asked myself countless times over the years – what if I actually …
Is there only one? Or knowing the will of God in marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I just cannot accept these thoughts. It makes more …
Is there only one? Or knowing the will of God in marriage Part 1
OK, this is a post that I have been thinking about for quite a while. I have found myself getting into discussions …
How modern life affects relationships Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I always like people to know that I’m not …
How modern life affects relationships Part 1
Before I start, I would just like to share this: to my amazement it appears that people are reading this blog. Wow. …
Faith and Submission – Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here OK, and then you think – “hmm, honestly …
Faith and Submission Part 1
OK, I’m supposed to be working on my business right now, but my business mind feels as if it has turned to …
In anticipation of marital fighting
Apologies from the outset if this sounds like a negative blog post. I don’t want to sound as if I’m prophesying negatively …
My commitment to Huggie-Wuggie?!
Oh dear, I have not written a Huggie-Wuggie blog post in weeks! It’s quite funny, as when I was setting up the …
Posts to write
In anticipation of a difficult marriage – done -kinda! The cow and the milk -done Different attributes for my husband – done …
Feelings versus Friendship
OK, as you may know, I can be very good at writing very, very long articles! So I will summarise the point …
Why am I so scared…of what I want?!
To my own great surprise, I have not produced many “Huggie-Wuggie” blog posts this week. I am surprised about this because possible …
Musings about Relationships
This article was originally written for my weekly Facebook Sunday Notes feature on Sunday 10 October 2010 ———————————————————————————— OK, I must admit …
Finding a good wife! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here. Also, in our particular church, there are no …
Finding a good wife! Part 1
This article was originally written for my Facebook weekly Sunday Notes feature on Sunday 17 October 2010 ———————————————————————————— Proverbs 18.22 “He who …
Concerns about Dating Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here However, in addition to Pastor I’s comments, I would …
Concerns about Dating Part 1
This article was originally written for my weekly Facebook notes feature, called Sunday notes, on Sunday 24 October 2010 ———————————————————————————– Song of …
Marriage advice from a single woman?
This post was originally written for my weekly Facebook notes feature, called Sunday notes, on Sunday 7th November 2010 ————————————————————————————- Proverbs 8 …
Students of Marriage
This article was originally written for my weekly Facebook notes feature, called Sunday Notes on Sunday 28 November 2010 ———————————————————————————– Proverbs 3v13-18 …
Why this is such a big deal for me!
OK, I think that I can admit that this is a very big deal for me! I guess it’s fair to say …
Thoughts on life, love and marriage
I am so excited that I’ve finally launched this blog. It’s going to be a blog about thoughts, insights and meditations on …
